"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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MooseGod

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I'm new on here, so hi everybody...

Anyway...I guess I'll start with a little background. Got out of a 1 1/2 year LTR a few months ago, (she wanted a ring...dodged a bullet there) and realized that while I won't miss the nagging, the whole not getting booty on a regular basis kinda sucks, so it's time to start getting to work. I met this extremely interesting and attractive chick through one of my roommates a couple days before classes started. We hit it off great from the first time we met, and had a couple of really good conversations (you know, politics, theology, philosophy, not just normal BS chit-chat)...plenty of IOIs, I didn't really try to come on too strong because the bud who introduced us told me she was dating some guy who lives in another town, but she never mentioned anything about a boyfriend...then classes start and I haven't really talked to her since, however she called me up to buy some wine for her and her roommates (she's 19, I'm 21) which kinda pissed me off because I felt a little used, but being the nice fellow I am I just rolled with it. Anyway, haven't really run into her on campus or at parties in the past couple weeks and she's not much of a Facebook addict. What should I do to try to get something going again? Or is it a lost cause?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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MooseGod said:
I'm new on here, so hi everybody...

Anyway...I guess I'll start with a little background. Got out of a 1 1/2 year LTR a few months ago, (she wanted a ring...dodged a bullet there) and realized that while I won't miss the nagging, the whole not getting booty on a regular basis kinda sucks, so it's time to start getting to work. I met this extremely interesting and attractive chick through one of my roommates a couple days before classes started. We hit it off great from the first time we met, and had a couple of really good conversations (you know, politics, theology, philosophy, not just normal BS chit-chat)...plenty of IOIs, I didn't really try to come on too strong because the bud who introduced us told me she was dating some guy who lives in another town, but she never mentioned anything about a boyfriend...then classes start and I haven't really talked to her since, however she called me up to buy some wine for her and her roommates (she's 19, I'm 21) which kinda pissed me off because I felt a little used, but being the nice fellow I am I just rolled with it. Anyway, haven't really run into her on campus or at parties in the past couple weeks and she's not much of a Facebook addict. What should I do to try to get something going again? Or is it a lost cause?
This site really isn't about "how to get the only girl I'm interested in."

It's more about improving your game as a whole. Of course you should talk to her again. But your window of opportunity has already passed. You'll probably have to open a new one.

Read up on this site. There's plenty of good information.
 

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Dude I wouldnt buy her alchohol unless you want to get arrested shes under age, if you get caught your screwed, believe me no chick like that is worth it. Honestly it could work out I believe, it seems like she likes you from what you said.
 
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