"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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What to do in this situation

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I am in a situation and have no idea what to do and am confident that the experience and wealth of knowledge on these forums will be much better than what I do. So here is the situation:

There is a new girl I met from one of my best friends. After chilling with her along with some other friends, I find I am falling for her. She is however going out in an unofficial relationship with my best friend. I talked to him and he said he doesn't care if I take her away from her. The problem is that she is in love with my best friend. She always says she wants him and even asks our group of friends individually what my best friend thinks of her.

She's been giving me a lot of ioi's, heavy kino with her is easy to do, but she is a very nice girl and gives alotta iois to our entire group of friends. I want to be with her and have no idea how to bring up my feelings about her. I want to tell her, but I know she is deep into my best friend, altho she continously flirts with me..

Ne ideas on how to approach this?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I.A.F.Y.B.

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So, her boyfriend is basicly saying you can take my gf if you can. But, his girlfriend is deeply in love with him.. You know this sounds like I might know you with the situation you just gave. But, I am single now... :crazy:

If he is you best friend then, I wouldn't try to take his girlfriend. Unless they break up and its cool with him.
 

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Rule of thumb : The person who cares less in the relationship will always get all the attention.

He cares less, thus she's giving him all the attention, thus she has all the feelings for him. It's going to be tough, if not impossible to really try to hook this chick. Besides, it's your best friend. He may say he doesn't care, but it really says something if you're trying to steal your best friend's GF. I've been in that situation once where I did "steal" my friend's girl and it was something I'd never really do again. Just not worth it.

What's worse is if you attempt to do it and fail, it's just as bad if not worse than succeeding at it.
 

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yes pple were telling me just to stay away from it, but she keeps giving strong ioi's and my best friend isnt a guy who has girlfriends and will probably never have a gf, just gets into flings with girls. With this present girl she tells everyone that he's her boyfriend, while he tells us, nah, and that he just wants to fvck her
 

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Fluid said:
She's been giving me a lot of ioi's, heavy kino with her is easy to do, but she is a very nice girl and gives alotta iois to our entire group of friends.
So they are not real IOI's. Maybe she is a very social person. In any way I wouldn't mess with my buddy's woman even if she is a ONS because it can complicate things too much. Maybe if she was a total wh0re things would be different but I would stay away just to be safe with my friend.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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With most friends there is a code. That code is to not mess with his girl. Your real friends would not do that. Some will stab you in the back but, thats another story. Some girls are just flirty and outgoing but, don't mean anything by it.

If I was in your situation. I would respect my best friends relationship and find a different girl.
 
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