Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Its so easy to actually make happen, you just have to be alpha. Don't ask, JUST DO IT. However as Senor pointed out, 1 on 1 sex is actually better than a 3some, however 3 somes are fun for the mental / confidence aspect. It will give you a tonne more confidence when you know you can treat a women like a piece of meat and make her do whatever you want.TheVirtualMind said:
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Latinoman said:I don't think it is masculine to have two women in front of you making out.
I think the masculine way for a threesome is for the man to have sex with BOTH women. No "homosexuality" (two women going at each other because the man needs a "break" - that's weak and whimpy)...but a MAN giving both of them what they need? That's in my view a Threesome and the only type I have ever been involved.
The secret is to please both...your c_ck in one (she rides you) and your mouth in the other (inner thighs or mouth or breasts). And switch them around. If you lack the stamina or control to do those things...then you are not in any condition to be trying two satisfy two women.
I strongly disagree. However the above reasoning is true for 3somes in a LTR. They fail because of the above. Every time I've had a threesome, it was because I took charge or in an orgy scenario, it was a man who took charge.Rollo Tomassi said:The most important thing in a threesome is that it has to be, or seem like it's the idea of the girl(s) involved at first. Extremely rare is the guy who can convince 2 women to be into each other AND him. Women KNOW this is every guys fantasy, so there has to be something in it for them too.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.