"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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What to do if a group of people are laughing at you?

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So i was parking my car today and walking back to my building when a car full of 4 people driving through the parking lot, at least 3 girls maybe one guy, started staring and laughing at me. I didn't know what to do because I didn't even know what they were laughing at me for. They were definitely talking about me and it wasn't a positive kind of thing. Should I just have pretended they werent there? It kind of made me feel like ****. How do I shrug something like this off?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Do something silly to show them you're not bothered!
 

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Do something silly to show them you're not bothered!
Nah...you're nobody's clown.

Maybe your fly was down or something goofy like that. I'd want in on the joke, and if they were just being asses and didn't have a legit reason to laugh, I'd then just shut them out.

People find strange reasons to laugh. It's only at "your expense" if you let it be.
 

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Aspiring_DJ said:
So i was parking my car today and walking back to my building when a car full of 4 people driving through the parking lot, at least 3 girls maybe one guy, started staring and laughing at me. I didn't know what to do because I didn't even know what they were laughing at me for. They were definitely talking about me and it wasn't a positive kind of thing. Should I just have pretended they werent there? It kind of made me feel like ****. How do I shrug something like this off?
Just curious....Were they negroes? They tend to that when they outnumber their assailant 4 to 1 or more.
 

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mahon83050 said:
Just curious....Were they negroes? They tend to that when they outnumber their assailant 4 to 1 or more.
You're an idiot..
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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mahon83050 said:
Just curious....Were they negroes? They tend to that when they outnumber their assailant 4 to 1 or more.
WTF!!! :cuss:

You are obviously a retard or something.
 

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How do I shrug something like this off?
By working on yourself and your weaknesses and thus becoming almost immune to it (what you believe in yourself is the most important thing).

Your weaknesses appear to be fearing of being judged and poor body image. Now go and work on it.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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mahon83050 said:
Just curious....Were they negroes? They tend to that when they outnumber their assailant 4 to 1 or more.
LOL...re-read the post. I think he could've taken "at least three girls and maybe one guy". :crackup:

And why the hell do people keep posting their questions in Tips? I feel like a broken record.
 

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LOL...re-read the post. I think he could've taken "at least three girls and maybe one guy". :crackup:

And why the hell do people keep posting their questions in Tips? I feel like a broken record.
Well, when I had this happen to me and friend once. It was 2-3 black girls and maybe like 1-2 black guys.
 

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Well, when I had this happen to me and friend once. It was 2-3 black girls and maybe like 1-2 black guys.
Maybe you look like a retard. (Not to say that there is anything funny about being retarded) Your statement was obviously a reflection of this.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Don't shoot the messenger (mahon). Different races behave in different ways folks! There are more geeky Whites and Negroes are naturally better with the women. Just stating the obvious here.
 

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I've had this once in a pub, where people mock you for no good reason. In this case it was because I was from the North of England and have an accent.

I did actually react to the guy in question, who then picked up a bottle and threatened to glass me in the face. I walked off. I hate to say it but sometimes it is not worth the trouble trying to argue back at these people (who are just doing it because they like the idea of finishing the night off with a good fight).
 

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First off, lets stop using the word negro. Little history lesson. It was a word used to describe blacks pre-civil rights movement.

Even though a lot of black people in the united states are not african decent, we get pushed into the african american group because people think this is the "politically correct" term for us. my roommate for instance is haitian american and we both have the same features.

personally i would like to be considered black. it's a word that is accepted by all of us no matter what our background is. i definately don't like to be called a negro and if someone was to say this directly to my face we would probably have a problem.

mahon... just because you were heckled by a group of blacks, doesn't mean that we all act the same way. that's just as stupid as me saying that all serial bombers/killers/rapists are white. maybe you looked funny to them. who knows? eitherway, don't put us all into a category because you were the joke of the day to a group of people who happened to be a certain race.

lastly, blacks are no better at picking up women than any other race. a good friend of mine is white and he's a lot better at picking up women than I am. I do alright for myself, but he is definately a few power points ahead of me when it comes to having game. it comes naturally to some and others have to work a little harder.
 

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kdnash82 said:
First off, lets stop using the word negro. Little history lesson. It was a word used to describe blacks pre-civil rights movement.

Even though a lot of black people in the united states are not african decent, we get pushed into the african american group because people think this is the "politically correct" term for us. my roommate for instance is haitian american and we both have the same features.

personally i would like to be considered black. it's a word that is accepted by all of us no matter what our background is. i definately don't like to be called a negro and if someone was to say this directly to my face we would probably have a problem.

mahon... just because you were heckled by a group of blacks, doesn't mean that we all act the same way. that's just as stupid as me saying that all serial bombers/killers/rapists are white. maybe you looked funny to them. who knows? eitherway, don't put us all into a category because you were the joke of the day to a group of people who happened to be a certain race.

lastly, blacks are no better at picking up women than any other race. a good friend of mine is white and he's a lot better at picking up women than I am. I do alright for myself, but he is definately a few power points ahead of me when it comes to having game. it comes naturally to some and others have to work a little harder.
Hey, I have no problem with black people, just n***ers. Alot of American blacks I have come across are ignorant. The ones from Africa, Haiti, England, etc, don't talk jive and they are cultured and educated.
 

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Mahon83050,

Since you brought up race - what are you? (I am going to take a WILD GUESS here..) WHITE?

Oh and help me understand, because I am little confused. What exactly is a
ni++ger? Please explain?

Are there a lot of these "ni++ger's" there in Jersey?

Please enlighten me and the rest of the So Suave community what exacty a ni++ger is.

P.S. I am not black, in case your wondering. Hence my confusion on what you think a ni++ger is.

-Eyedogg
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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