"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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What To Do For Girl Birthday?

Hellomisslady

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Me again,

The girl who I've been getting to know the past few weeks who i know has some attraction to me has a birthday coming up on Sunday. She's turning 18. my friend whose a girl just asked me if I was going to do anything nice for her and I was like hmmm I'm not sure. She said if I wanted her to notice me more I should do something for her (girl advice... maybe not reliable?). So I come seeking help from you guys, what if anything should I do? Any great ideas?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Now where is that "cox in a box" video when I need it?????
 

Hellomisslady

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I don't think I'll be able to get her to come over tomorrow so is there anything I can do like buy something her or is that off limits
 

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Don't Buy her something, Make her something, then later on, Make her baby.
 

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Let me get this right... the girl whose birthday it is suggested that you do something for her to get her to notice you more.

She is telling you that if you want her to NOTICE YOU MORE, that you should DO SOMETHING special for her birthday.

You are friend-zoned and you're being manipulated for her own gain. She is asking you to trade your time in advance for her affection.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Hellomisslady

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no no no you've got it wrong my friend who is a girl said I should do something for the girl whos birthday it is
 

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Hellomisslady said:
I don't think I'll be able to get her to come over tomorrow so is there anything I can do like buy something her or is that off limits
Buying a girl a car always worked for me. :cool:


Cheers!
 

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Hellomisslady said:
no no no you've got it wrong my friend who is a girl said I should do something for the girl whos birthday it is

Although your friend means well,DON'T LISTEN TO HER.

Buying her something WILL get you noticed,but NOT the way you want.




If she were your girlfriend,this would be ok,but you're not even dating her.


If all you had to do was buy a girl something to get her,this forum wouldn't be here.



I'll just say this straight: You want to date this girl,right? If so,then WHY haven't you asked her out yet?



You think buying her something will make her want to go out with you?



I'm sure she'll probably get several presents for her birthday. So all the other people who gives her gifts besides you,does she have to date them as well?



Why would your gift mean one thing,while all the others mean something else?



If you wanted to stand out,then you should ask her out. You think doing that would get you noticed?


I think so.



You said that she "has some attraction" for you. If you really believe this,then what's the problem with just asking her out?



That way you don't have to follow the herd like all the others who are going to buy her gifts.
 
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Igetit!,

That's exactly what I was thinking about buying her stuff, my friend keeps saying take her out for ice cream or dinner and I was like well we go out for ice cream, were just friends. Then she was like buy her flowers, boys have bought me flowers for my birthday before, and all I thought was ya and you didn't go out with them did you? Don't get me wrong, she's one of my best friends, but thanks to you guys I've realized that female advice really sucks most of the time. I don't know when I could isolate her at school which is the majority of the time I see her to ask her out.. I'll think on it
 

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Give her a card that says she's entitled to one date with you. Make sure she opens it in front of you. If you're ****y and funny about it, it'll go over well.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I agree with ppl here, make taking her out your gift. Just have fun with her, that's better than any store bought gift (and she'll remember it more)
 
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