After months of constant contact and hanging, the girl I was seeing was losing interest cause she knew she had me. So I went NC and it has worked like a charm. Now she is contacting me and responding extremely quick and trying to get reactions out of me. I have just been playing it cool and indifferent. Waiting awhile to respond and not giving her the answers she is looking for. I still like this girl, but how do I proceed from here?
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
What to do after NC works?
- Thread starter Kbish828
- Start date
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
depends what you want? you need to be very very honest with yourself and us.Kbish828 said:
have you really learned/developed? or do you think if you got back with her you would revert back to AFC isms?
do you just want sex?
as it is, keep playing it cool and indifferent, she will tire and move on.
PlayHer Man
Banned
Well the entire point of NC is to shift the power back into your hands. It allows you to get to the bottom of things and learn the TRUTH about her. The harder she chases you the more invested she is/was.
Once you have succeeded with NC the next step is to continue the relationship strictly on YOUR TERMS. You will simply live as you please and let her come along for the ride. If she can't accept your terms.. there's the door.
Any women you're using NC on has already "blown it" with you and can never be fully trusted again. If she was right for you, then you wouldn't need to use NC. So the only real point is power/revenge to allow you to use/bang her on your own terms and throw her away like trash later.
Never totally take back a woman after NC.
Once you have succeeded with NC the next step is to continue the relationship strictly on YOUR TERMS. You will simply live as you please and let her come along for the ride. If she can't accept your terms.. there's the door.
Any women you're using NC on has already "blown it" with you and can never be fully trusted again. If she was right for you, then you wouldn't need to use NC. So the only real point is power/revenge to allow you to use/bang her on your own terms and throw her away like trash later.
Never totally take back a woman after NC.
Uncharted
Master Don Juan
Agree with "PlayHer Man". I just want to emphasize that you SHOULD fvck her though. 
PlayHer Man
Banned
Nothing is more important to women than attention. To most women, ignoring them is more offensive that punching them in the face. :crazy:
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
PlayHer Man said:
There may be exceptions to this rule, but for the most part I sadly agree with this. My last NC went exactly according to this script. At the end of the day she was still unsuitable for me and I ended up letting her go. Only after she acted a bit off did I just let the cat out of the bag to ensure maximum emotional damage.
The other girl I was seeing, I never had to go NC on and we're still together.
At the end of the day I was curious to see what would come of girl #1, but ultimately I knew I needed to get the goods and then bounce because of her attitude.
Like what was already said, if you have to go NC on someone there is very little chance she will EVER be right for you in the long run.