After months of constant contact and hanging, the girl I was seeing was losing interest cause she knew she had me. So I went NC and it has worked like a charm. Now she is contacting me and responding extremely quick and trying to get reactions out of me. I have just been playing it cool and indifferent. Waiting awhile to respond and not giving her the answers she is looking for. I still like this girl, but how do I proceed from here?
Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
What to do after NC works?
- Thread starter Kbish828
- Start date
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
depends what you want? you need to be very very honest with yourself and us.Kbish828 said:
have you really learned/developed? or do you think if you got back with her you would revert back to AFC isms?
do you just want sex?
as it is, keep playing it cool and indifferent, she will tire and move on.
PlayHer Man
Banned
Well the entire point of NC is to shift the power back into your hands. It allows you to get to the bottom of things and learn the TRUTH about her. The harder she chases you the more invested she is/was.
Once you have succeeded with NC the next step is to continue the relationship strictly on YOUR TERMS. You will simply live as you please and let her come along for the ride. If she can't accept your terms.. there's the door.
Any women you're using NC on has already "blown it" with you and can never be fully trusted again. If she was right for you, then you wouldn't need to use NC. So the only real point is power/revenge to allow you to use/bang her on your own terms and throw her away like trash later.
Never totally take back a woman after NC.
Once you have succeeded with NC the next step is to continue the relationship strictly on YOUR TERMS. You will simply live as you please and let her come along for the ride. If she can't accept your terms.. there's the door.
Any women you're using NC on has already "blown it" with you and can never be fully trusted again. If she was right for you, then you wouldn't need to use NC. So the only real point is power/revenge to allow you to use/bang her on your own terms and throw her away like trash later.
Never totally take back a woman after NC.
Uncharted
Master Don Juan
Agree with "PlayHer Man". I just want to emphasize that you SHOULD fvck her though. 
PlayHer Man
Banned
Nothing is more important to women than attention. To most women, ignoring them is more offensive that punching them in the face. :crazy:
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
PlayHer Man said:
There may be exceptions to this rule, but for the most part I sadly agree with this. My last NC went exactly according to this script. At the end of the day she was still unsuitable for me and I ended up letting her go. Only after she acted a bit off did I just let the cat out of the bag to ensure maximum emotional damage.
The other girl I was seeing, I never had to go NC on and we're still together.
At the end of the day I was curious to see what would come of girl #1, but ultimately I knew I needed to get the goods and then bounce because of her attitude.
Like what was already said, if you have to go NC on someone there is very little chance she will EVER be right for you in the long run.