"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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What to do after getting rejected

OlympicTim

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Okay so i asked a chick out at my work. She kindly said no blah blah blah. Anyways obviously shes gonna tell co workkers and such so how do you think i should play this. She i just ignore her except for work related things or should i just act normal and pretend it never happened. (I still want to sleep with her)
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Ideally, neither. Do the work related stuff, but also man up and own up to the fact that you expressed romantic interest and it was not reciprocated.

Just treat it like it wasn't a big deal.

Or, if you feel anxious/awkward/nervous/sad/hurt/rejected, as would be a totally normal thing, then try to feel those feelings and own up to them and let it spill through into your expressions outwardly. People think thats lame, but expressing a hint of sadness when you're genuinely sad is also known as being authentic. Expressing a hint of nervousness when you're genuinely nervous is also called being authentic.

Any of these two solutions is better than pretending to put on some kind of front, which takes you farther away from relating honestly to her and to yourself. Nobody cares about your "cool guy" impressions, life is about being real with each other, not being fearless fake supermen. That's just my 200 dollars.
 

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Forget that it ever happened, you should never have asked in the first place in such a context.
 

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1. Keep trying till you succeed. Depending on how bad you fuked up it can take time.

2. Decide its not worth the hassle and forget about it.


But there is no girl you cant sleep with if your persistent. It's just that we talk when we must grab that asss that holds us back, because if you look good, you dont need to talk alot that undermines your success and I keep failing like that couse I like talking :D Then you're in for the long game in which of course, the woman is in control. Sad but true ;]
 

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Your princess is in another castle.

You aren't getting anywhere, so withdraw your attention. But at work, keep it cordial i.e. say hi and move on.

Case closed.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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In you case, less is more. You don't want to be the center of gossip. Stay low profile for few weeks, keep you head down low til things are normal again.

Right now, no news is good news for you. You should be praying hard that they don't talk about you. Girls sometimes come back to the guy liked them, just make sure you don't annoy her, then you still have a chance. But you should be aware dating coworker is risky.
 

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nismo-4 said:
Your princess is in another castle.

You aren't getting anywhere, so withdraw your attention. But at work, keep it cordial i.e. say hi and move on.

Case closed.
Agree.

Once a woman has made her lack of interest known.. she is now a NON-ISSUE. Your time, thoughts and energy should shift to other things.

Why on earth are you making a thread about a woman who you're not f*cking and never will? :crackup:

She does not matter anymore!
 

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"What to do after getting rejected" ?

Well, nothing. Do what you were doing before.
 
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