"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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What to do after getting rejected

OlympicTim

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Okay so i asked a chick out at my work. She kindly said no blah blah blah. Anyways obviously shes gonna tell co workkers and such so how do you think i should play this. She i just ignore her except for work related things or should i just act normal and pretend it never happened. (I still want to sleep with her)
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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ucde

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Ideally, neither. Do the work related stuff, but also man up and own up to the fact that you expressed romantic interest and it was not reciprocated.

Just treat it like it wasn't a big deal.

Or, if you feel anxious/awkward/nervous/sad/hurt/rejected, as would be a totally normal thing, then try to feel those feelings and own up to them and let it spill through into your expressions outwardly. People think thats lame, but expressing a hint of sadness when you're genuinely sad is also known as being authentic. Expressing a hint of nervousness when you're genuinely nervous is also called being authentic.

Any of these two solutions is better than pretending to put on some kind of front, which takes you farther away from relating honestly to her and to yourself. Nobody cares about your "cool guy" impressions, life is about being real with each other, not being fearless fake supermen. That's just my 200 dollars.
 

mangotot

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Forget that it ever happened, you should never have asked in the first place in such a context.
 

BrainDamage92

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1. Keep trying till you succeed. Depending on how bad you fuked up it can take time.

2. Decide its not worth the hassle and forget about it.


But there is no girl you cant sleep with if your persistent. It's just that we talk when we must grab that asss that holds us back, because if you look good, you dont need to talk alot that undermines your success and I keep failing like that couse I like talking :D Then you're in for the long game in which of course, the woman is in control. Sad but true ;]
 

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Your princess is in another castle.

You aren't getting anywhere, so withdraw your attention. But at work, keep it cordial i.e. say hi and move on.

Case closed.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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hop On hop Off

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In you case, less is more. You don't want to be the center of gossip. Stay low profile for few weeks, keep you head down low til things are normal again.

Right now, no news is good news for you. You should be praying hard that they don't talk about you. Girls sometimes come back to the guy liked them, just make sure you don't annoy her, then you still have a chance. But you should be aware dating coworker is risky.
 

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nismo-4 said:
Your princess is in another castle.

You aren't getting anywhere, so withdraw your attention. But at work, keep it cordial i.e. say hi and move on.

Case closed.
Agree.

Once a woman has made her lack of interest known.. she is now a NON-ISSUE. Your time, thoughts and energy should shift to other things.

Why on earth are you making a thread about a woman who you're not f*cking and never will? :crackup:

She does not matter anymore!
 

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"What to do after getting rejected" ?

Well, nothing. Do what you were doing before.
 
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