"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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What to do after all this?

Sasha

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Long story short.

1 meeting: Met a girl in a club, some dancing, kissing, got #, got to eat later (me, her, my friend, her friend) and thats it.
(Didn't call)

2 meeting: Met her at the same club some other time. Some dancing, kissing, got a burger later on (me, she, and her friend).. and she ask why I haven't called. I say I will next time.
(Didn't call)

3 time: I see her late one night with her friend and some dude. I don't approach. just send an mobile message saying "why you out so late", anyways we keep sending back and forth for like an hour or two and it stopps there.

A week later or two: I call her and ask her to come out, but she is busy. Of to BBQ with some friends or something. I say "maybe some other time and that I am of to summer hoolidays soon" and end it with that. (I kinda belive her about BBQ, cuz that day was hot and sunny and perfect for BBQ)

3 months later (now): Do I give her a call or not? I don't realy give a damn. Cute but thats it.

The reason I am asking this is not becouse I want to get togather with her but becouse I have no clue what is the right way to do in this situation. What do you guys think? What would you do? (I don't think I even have her # anymore) I'm just asking.



Sasha
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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You ask if you should call her or not. You also said you don't even have her number. You also say you have no clue on what to do.

My friend, this is not what a real man does. he does not fidget around wondering what to do.

This is a lost cause, go for another girl and not repeat the same stupid mistakes.
 

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I don't want her, I am asking in a hypotheoretical (or somthing) question. Let say I did have her number and I did want to get togather, should I then call her or not?


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3 months an no call - she will think you are an idiot if she remembers who you are...
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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