what to do after 1st date?

[tjslove]

k went on a first date last night and saw that the girl seemed excessively nervous......so I played it cool and just keep letting her talk about herself. At the end of the date it ended with a hug and her saying she would call me?

What is next DJs

 

[WORKEROUTER]

On the first date, have fun. I steer clear of lunch dates, coffee dates, theatre dates,ect. for the first dates.

You should be having a good time with her and she should. THAT'S IT. Don't overanalyze things, don't worry about making your "move." Because remember, on a first date, you need to establish a CONNECTION and you need to establish COMFORT. Once these two are met, you're set. The best way to do this is to have fun.

You say she was nervous. Why? Or are you just over-analyzing things? Either way, remember, comfort is your goal.

She's going to call you? Bad move. You need to establish some control of the situation; if a relationship was a car, then you're the driver!

This means that at the end of the date, when dropping her off, you'll get some natural KINO going (maybe put your hands on her hips), establish eye contact, mention you had a good time, and tell her you'll call her.

When an open slot comes up, and you feel like going out again, you'll call her and, assuming your first date went well, you'll go out again. Simple as that.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Don't wait around for her call, seems like it won't happen. Keep sarging so that you don't get one-itis.

Oh yeah, she seemed nervous so you left her to do most of the talking? That doesn't seem quite right.

 

[Q-Pid]

Call her in a few days and set up the second date. If she flakes or puts up obstacles just say "I know your nervous..." and take it from there.

 

[Warrior Princess]

How exactly was she nervous? Was she sweating, shaking or stuttering? To be honest, there was no point to my question, I just like to visualize things.

On a serious note, take her to a crowded place. She shouldn't be nervous then.


Good luck!


Meg

 

[Dr Box]

Originally posted by WORKEROUTER
On the first date, have fun. I steer clear of lunch dates, coffee dates, theatre dates,ect. for the first dates.

So True, It took me a while to realise this but when I did massive change in results.

 

[Sophomakhos]

This is odd; many people recommend coffee dates for the first date, and yet others say to steer clear of it. Personally I find that coffee is a very good first date, and that the 'fun' dates should follow up to supplement.

 

[Tyron]

There aren't any rules as to where you should go on a first date. Girl, time of week, your schedule etc everything effects your decision so there isn't one solution that will always work.

I think that coffee dates are ok for a first date as long as you arent putting any pressure on it. I mean, just say that she can come hang around with you when you are on town and you can grab a coffee etc. These dates don't last long and gives enough time for both to further develop the first impression. If she isnt what you are looking for it's easy to say bye and move on whatever you were doing, and vice versa.

 

[[o_0]]

try reading my threads on the tips forum.
mainly never let girl tell she will call back.you have to make move.

 

[doommarine44]

her telling you she will call gave her power, and should tell you she doesnt trust you or is insecure about you or her

 

[flexion_]

You always call her for the first few dates. She might have been nervous because she liked you.

Now the coffee date or no coffee date. In reality if the girl is really attracted to you a date to the local prison would still work.

I think if you have some rapport established then a coffee date works because you'll have some things to talk about. If its say a blind date or someone you don't know well you might consider some action type date so there is something else going on in the background for you both to connect with or establish rapport on. Otherwise you tend to get those "interview feeling" type dates.