what to do about trust issues

[theoneandonlyjay]

ive always had trust issues... i dont know why


thats a big reason why i have sexual anxiety, and and never do get with girls even if they come up to me and start flirting with me.

i hardly ever talk to people and never tell them anything about myself unless ive known them for a while and trust them

is there anything i can do about it?

 

[I'm in the Mood]

I'll give it to ya real simple.

If you want to meet someone, you have to go out of your way to talk to them and learn something about them.
I know it's not like you don't trust everybody you see, but you have to get to know someone before you can trust them with personal things.

Just be like "Can I trust you?" and take it from there. If she seems interested in gaining your trust, you've got hers and if you notice her interest in gaining your trust, you want to reward her for it by validating her. It could even be as simple as "Thank you, I knew I could trust you."

Try it out for yourself, but you must raise the issue be very honest about it if trust is an issue for you.

 

[intrextrovert]

You have to work out those issues man. Why don't you trust people? What do you think they'll do? What's the worst they can do? Tell everyone how you went on a cool vacation a while back? Tell everybody you had a lazy weekend last week and didn't do anything? Give everyone the big scoop on how you enjoy margaritas and long walks on the beach? What are you trusting people you just talk to/flirt with?

As it gets deeper and bf/gf i can kinda understand. But w/o trust **** won't work. I don't know what you imagine, but again, what's the worst someone can do, and why would they?

 

[Desert Fox]

I'm the same way man. I always kick a girl out RIGHT AFTER we have sex because I'm afraid she will murder me in my sleep...creepy!