"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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What to do about Thai virgin girl

Young OG

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I don't ask for help very often on here but I could use some advice on this.

I met this 26 yr old Asian girl who moved here (USA) a year ago from Thailand. She is a virgin and has never had a boyfriend. We have hung out twice now. She sucked my dVck both times and it wasn't very good. I've also fingered her and made her orgasim. She told me that she has trouble trusting people and that I'll have to wait a little while for sex. Shes looking for a relationship and I'm sure will want kids someday. I already have a kid and don't want more. I had a vasectomy, but I haven't told her. I'm fine with a relationship with the right girl who doesn't want kids.

The problem is that I'm not sure if I should just cut her loose or not. I would love to take her virginity but I don't want to wait a long time. The next time we hang out would be the 3rd date and I'm pretty sure she won't put out yet. I already have girls that do put out and I've been meeting new girls a lot lately.

Should I cut this one loose and concentrate on girls that actually put out or should I put in the time to hit it?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I would love to take her virginity but
Little late. I met lots of girls in Thailand who claimed to be virgins.

But they were all hookers working in bars.

Used car salesmen say their cars run fantastic.

Real estate agents tell you it's a great neighborhood.

Politicians promise they'll fix the ills of society.

Snake oil salesmen promise to fix your cancer.

Girls tell you they're virgins.
 

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Little late. I met lots of girls in Thailand who claimed to be virgins.

But they were all hookers working in bars.

Used car salesmen say their cars run fantastic.

Real estate agents tell you it's a great neighborhood.

Politicians promise they'll fix the ills of society.

Snake oil salesmen promise to fix your cancer.

Girls tell you they're virgins.
I didnt make this thread to debate whether she is one or not. I made this thread to figure out what to do about her. Thanks.
 

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The next time we hang out would be the 3rd date and I'm pretty sure she won't put out yet.
So what's the problem? Give her one more try and then next her.

My point in pointing out that she's not likely a virgin was because that was likely a move on HER part to keep you hanging around longer.

And that point is kind of important when figuring out what to do with her.

Since you're meeting girls, why is this one such a big deal?

Would she not be a big deal if you didn't think she was a virgin?
 

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So what's the problem? Give her one more try and then next her.

My point in pointing out that she's not likely a virgin was because that was likely a move on HER part to keep you hanging around longer.

And that point is kind of important when figuring out what to do with her.

Since you're meeting girls, why is this one such a big deal?

Would she not be a big deal if you didn't think she was a virgin?
Thanks for the better reply. You do make some valid points. She isn't a big deal. Since I already have had a couple dates with her, I would like to smash. I don't like to waste my time on women. I am leaning towards giving her one more date and nexting if no sex happens.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Thanks for the better reply. You do make some valid points. She isn't a big deal. Since I already have had a couple dates with her, I would like to smash. I don't like to waste my time on women. I am leaning towards giving her one more date and nexting if no sex happens.
So she's a virgin but seem to dole out the giving head thing pretty quick. If she really was a virgin, I suspect she wouldn't know how to do any of that stuff. No, she's experienced but she's still not very good. Nope, move on, see if you can get some but move on.
 
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If she’s supposedly a virgin and also can’t give head well, how good do you think the sex is going to be? Unlike porn, virgins typically don’t know how to do stuff. The bad oral sex may be a sign of that.

Unless the game is to ‘awaken’ her sexual side with your sexual expertise. Teach her things etc. I can see that being a selling point for some virgins if they are really attracted to the guy, are not saving themselves for marriage and are interested in having a good sexual experience.

But if she’s looking for some kind of investment before giving it up, and you just want to use her to slam and then dump, then you will be potentially creating what everyone here calls alpha widows.
 

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Why do you have to choose between her and other girls? Date her until she puts out but bang other plates in the meantime.
 
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