What to do about possible LDR w/ low interest?

[Nutz]

Met a 22 year old through friends at a BBQ last weekend. She lives 2 hours away, but was dropping hints all night that she was interested. We later went out with a couple and effectively had an instant double-date to see a punk show. Things were good enough I guess, but she's kind of a prude and homebody. She doesn't drink, doesn't go out, and is a gamer and kind of nerdy being into anime & sci-fi.

So here's the issues:

1. She didn't seem comfortable with my touching her; she didn't reciprocate

2. She balked via text when I introduced the idea of me driving up to see her later this week, although when I called her and talked about it she sounded interested

3. She brings up during conversation about how a guy at one point went dead air on her when she friend-zoned him, as though she was hinting that's what she wants

In short, she seems very low interest at this point, but I do want to see her again. How do I manage investment levels so I'm not the one doing all the work?

What I need to do is figure out a way of going sexual with a prudish geek that doesn't drink. Tall order, eh?

 

[scrouds]

Don't bother.

 

[Iceberg]

I agree with scrouds. I don't really see anything about this girl that makes her worth the investment.
-Prude
-Low interest
-Long distance


Surely you can't be that low on plates, can you?

 

[Nutz]

I agree with scrouds. I don't really see anything about this girl that makes her worth the investment.
-Prude
-Low interest
-Long distance


Surely you can't be that low on plates, can you?

There are plates. She jumped to the top of the list when we hung out, but you're all right. The more I think about it the more she slides to the bottom.

 

[Iceberg]

There are plates. She jumped to the top of the list when we hung out, but you're all right. The more I think about it the more she slides to the bottom.

I mean, hey, if she finds herself in your bed one night, that's great. But I damn sure wouldn't be wasting my time trying to develop a strategy based around such a low-chance prospect.

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear Nutz,
look even if she was giving positive indicators I would seriously question the value of a long distance relationship....Two hours away?....That means there and back wastes half a Day....She'd want to be good!

 

[runner83]

Dude, you cannot be serious.

If you had plates, you wouldn't even have bothered posting this.

 

[Nutz]

Just a quick update. I'm still spinning this plate and she drove 2 hours to see me and ended up spending the night this past weekend.

 

[MatureDJ]

Give her the opportunity to see you once a week. If she somehow can't do keep it going, NEXT!