Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
AGREED. Dont give a **** what people who follow society's rules think of it, either. They can keep getting burned by trophy ho's in an attempt to up their status, and be considered "cool" and "hot" by others - as they brag about banging degenerate skanks. Rather be happy and content than miserable and "awesome".foreverAFC said:if they are too attractive i get turned off, the more attractive and high maintenance they look the lamer i know they are going to be on the inside, so when i see extremely attractive women im completely turned off by them, i know they are going to act lame and they have so many dudes trying to bang them already im just completely disgusted turned off and annoyed. id prefer a cute down to earth nerdy girl instead.
Its certainly a challenge - moreso than wanting them in the first place. With enough experience, you finally learn not to go for them. Mainly because you realize theyre nothing special. I finally reached the point where, like the other guy, they completely disgust me. Theyre not even WORTH gaming... Thats how low on the ladder they are.Dekg140 said:Got to agree with all of these! Apart from the too attractive one. I get where you're coming from but damn, those hot *****es are irresistible. Of course I fvck them rather than putting my jacket down over a puddle for them but yeah
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Ahh you see but now you're bringing personality into the equation. What our good friend ForeverAFC said was that if they are too attractive, he gets turned off. And you agreed. My point being, just because a female is particularly attractive, it doesn't mean she's a slvt, attention *****, etcetc. I've met plenty of HB9s and even 10s with great personalitys, that I would never have known they had if I had just assumed they were stuck up because they were hot. Sure the chances of them being a ***** is much higher but i'm willing to take some risksfloydb25 said:Its certainly a challenge - moreso than wanting them in the first place. With enough experience, you finally learn not to go for them. Mainly because you realize theyre nothing special. I finally reached the point where, like the other guy, they completely disgust me. Theyre not even WORTH gaming... Thats how low on the ladder they are.
Of course, this is a specific type. I avoid anyone who's not good, and can spot losers, sluts, princesses, fake *****es, drama queens, bad girls, party *****s, etc pretty easily. Mainly because its all I ever surrounded myself with. Everything on these lists is what I dated - usually in the same person... Lolz. Talk about no standards or self esteem. Then again, none of these girls did, either. All we did was complain about losers to other losers - not realizing we were all losers. :trouble:
But I see where youre coming from, and agree. Theyre nothing more than a **** to me, as well, but thats not my gig. So they get avoided instead. Would rather not deal with them at all. Like, if someone is cool enough to kick it with, but too troublesome, selfish, rude, and untrustworthy to become good friends... **** em. Would rather not have them in my life, or thinking about them at all. Their bull**** IS going to affect you - just like negative people spread their misery onto others, and make them become cynical, pessimistic, and negative, too.
Theres a lot of **** in dealing with others that influences our behaviors, personalities, moods, thoughts, perceptions, etc - whether we realize it or not. Its all gravy while youre in the zone, and living in the moment. Its not until well after the fact that you realize this is / was where all your stress is / was coming from.
There are only two categories for me these days: good, genuine, relationship / friendship worthy people, and those who are avoided. **** all the bull****. Dealt with it long enough, and it does affect you. Just ask all the people on here, and the bull**** they go through just to bang a dumb slut. Its still bull****; they still have to deal with it, and hear her talk, and complain and become angry over her. Then generalizing, hating, and becoming bitter. Bad news.
Once you surround yourself with only decent people and positive influences, and raise your self confidence - all the bull**** goes away.