"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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what things do you guys do to get back to your prime?

_sideways_

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My dad was sick and I spent all my free time with him. He was my guy, my compadre, my one dude whos smile made my day.
Hes in heaven now for sure. And I've let him go slowly. But now its time to keep up the good family name.

I'm having a hard time "gaming"/" flirting" with girls.
I meet women who are desirable and some lesser ones all the time.
I commute on train, bus, etc.

I'm just not as sharp or quick to make "Convo" on her "earrings" like I used to.
Except I still want them.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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If you never do anything you will remain like this for eternity, that usually is enough to scare me into action.
 

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Its all mindframe and continual exposure.

How did you think when you were in your "prime"?

What made you confident?

Find the answers and compare them to how you feel now
 

mrgoodstuff

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Its all mindframe and continual exposure.

How did you think when you were in your "prime"?

What made you confident?

Find the answers and compare them to how you feel now

I felt fit and more attractive than 95% of my age group.

I felt I had some social and persuasive powers.

I was tackling my industry in the top 3% of it.

I had manly hobbies and chores.

I didn't seek women's approval not ever.

I couldn't screw all females but a good 20% wouldn't give up much resistance.

That's how I felt.
 

wifehunter

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Try not to fall under the "illusion of action", Dispite other comments...If you think you have to DO something, you've lost already.

Just be a Catch!

Have a life, have stuff going on constantly, joke, tease, have fun! Be patient, and things will happen, without YOU doing anything other than being EXCELLENT!!!
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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MrWiggles

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First of all, sorry for your loss. Secondly, It takes some time to recover from something like that so I wouldn't be too hard on yourself if you aren't seeing results like you did before. Just keep plowing through it. Maybe take some time off (from everything) to absorb what has happened. You'll get back to prime eventually if you don't quit on yourself
 

ubercat

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When a boxer gets beaten up in a pro fight they go back to basics. Train the jab the hook etc. For a DJ it's bold approach, kino whenever it fits, your best date routine, brush aside the LMR, bang. If you're doing the basics well don't try and force the knockout it will come.
 

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You've been out of the game for a while and you had a emotional stresss. It,s normal to feel reclusive and afraid of going out there again after what you lived.

I would recommend that you start back from basics.... a few random hi, 1 approach etc... you know small warm-up stuff until you ready to escalate your numbers.

That's what I do to keep the ''game'' warm
 
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