"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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what things do you guys do to get back to your prime?

_sideways_

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My dad was sick and I spent all my free time with him. He was my guy, my compadre, my one dude whos smile made my day.
Hes in heaven now for sure. And I've let him go slowly. But now its time to keep up the good family name.

I'm having a hard time "gaming"/" flirting" with girls.
I meet women who are desirable and some lesser ones all the time.
I commute on train, bus, etc.

I'm just not as sharp or quick to make "Convo" on her "earrings" like I used to.
Except I still want them.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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If you never do anything you will remain like this for eternity, that usually is enough to scare me into action.
 

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Its all mindframe and continual exposure.

How did you think when you were in your "prime"?

What made you confident?

Find the answers and compare them to how you feel now
 

mrgoodstuff

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Its all mindframe and continual exposure.

How did you think when you were in your "prime"?

What made you confident?

Find the answers and compare them to how you feel now

I felt fit and more attractive than 95% of my age group.

I felt I had some social and persuasive powers.

I was tackling my industry in the top 3% of it.

I had manly hobbies and chores.

I didn't seek women's approval not ever.

I couldn't screw all females but a good 20% wouldn't give up much resistance.

That's how I felt.
 

wifehunter

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Try not to fall under the "illusion of action", Dispite other comments...If you think you have to DO something, you've lost already.

Just be a Catch!

Have a life, have stuff going on constantly, joke, tease, have fun! Be patient, and things will happen, without YOU doing anything other than being EXCELLENT!!!
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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MrWiggles

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First of all, sorry for your loss. Secondly, It takes some time to recover from something like that so I wouldn't be too hard on yourself if you aren't seeing results like you did before. Just keep plowing through it. Maybe take some time off (from everything) to absorb what has happened. You'll get back to prime eventually if you don't quit on yourself
 

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When a boxer gets beaten up in a pro fight they go back to basics. Train the jab the hook etc. For a DJ it's bold approach, kino whenever it fits, your best date routine, brush aside the LMR, bang. If you're doing the basics well don't try and force the knockout it will come.
 

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You've been out of the game for a while and you had a emotional stresss. It,s normal to feel reclusive and afraid of going out there again after what you lived.

I would recommend that you start back from basics.... a few random hi, 1 approach etc... you know small warm-up stuff until you ready to escalate your numbers.

That's what I do to keep the ''game'' warm
 
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