Don_Jaime said:
Hey, my lil sister has a friend who is like 19, and she is cute and she told my lil sis that I was hot, so I see her on myspace and send her the message.
Your first mistake. I would recon sense this is your sister's friend that she frequents your house a lot? Why not just approach her face to face? This myspace sh!t is almost as bad as passing notes. This isn't third grade, you are 22 years old for christ sakes.
Hey I want to take you out sometime.Whats your number?
Not the smoothest thing in the world at all. You totally jumped the gun by asking her out without any prior rapport. All you know is that your sister told you she thought you were "cute". She still doesn't know you. It still doesn't change the fact that even if she agreed to hang with you it would still be akward, and so would every phone conversation that follows.
She messages her number. I call her to come to a LMFAO concert on saturday with me and my lil sis, but no answer.
I wonder why. No rapport. You jumped the gun and now you just seem creepy. But even if you DID gather enough rapport and trust from her, why the hell would you take her to a concert with your sister as a THIRD WHEEL? Hello?!
I dont think she knew I called. I wake up today and the girl called me and missed her call. I call her back, and didnt know whose number it was. So I call her and asks who this is who called my number and she says, you dont know who this is? I am like, No. She says this is blah blah. Then I am like oh hey whats up girl. Then she immediately says, can I calll you back in 20 minutes>? I am like ok. She never calls. I am like WTF. I figured she wouldnt call back and she didnt.
Was probably curious who was calling her, realized was you and was like "Oh sh!t" and came up with the quickest excuse she could think of to hang up on. Remember what I said earlier about akward phone conversations?
Do you think it is a game or just lost interest.
I would highly doubt this is a case of "hard to get" despite her age, because you screwed up a lot.
**** young girls are nexting people for not knowing who the **** it is who is calling my phone. Whatta Country haha. Should I just ignore and move on or text her saying whats up with that? or call her, I know I would be giving power away to her side, but damn I wanna smash that *****. This is unbelieveable, I have thought I have seen it all lol at 22, but apparently not.
Solution: Don't text her, or write her or call her for a few weeks. Spin some more plates on the side and let her contact you first. And even if/when she does, don't write her back then. Give it another couples days and wait to see if she writes again. Make her wonder what you're up to. Make her anxiety go up a bit, and trust me it will. If you went from contacting her everyday, smothering her and showing high interest in her she's going to wonder why all of the sudden you cut it off. She's going to think "what did I do wrong, why doesn't he like me anymore?" because she secretly gets off on the satisfaction of you liking her, it's going to fvck with her head. After awhile finally start talking to her, but be too "busy" to meet up with her for the first few times. This is your chance to lay down some rapport and make her trust you while her interest is sky-rocketed, and once the time is right (you'll know when it is) go in for the kill.