"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
what the hell
- Thread starter Skel
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Golden Arms
Master Don Juan
How did it go with the hot Indian chick ?
Jay Gatsby
Don Juan
At the same time, I completely understand why mature men would want to spend their time here. We have questions that no underage poster could answer, much less understand. Issues like marriage, children, divorce, investments, etc...are all issues that your average 25+ year old person has to deal with. Your average underage person, on the other hand, is still dealing with getting a girl's (and I mean *girl* not woman) phone number, if not ultimately doing the deed with her.
With all that said, underage posters should not post their questions here. If you, as an underage poster, have a question that you think that a mature man is the only one who can answer it (you'd most likely be wrong), then simply post a link here to your message on the main board. Do so only if nobody has responded in 2-3 days. We are a secondary resource, not your primary one.
If you're still in high school, you'll be wasting your time in posting here, since most of us are at least 8-10 years out of high school, and have moved beyond playing the types of games high school girls play.
To the moderators: I would suggest a sticky at the top that tells underage folks some of the foregoing things.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Falcon Eye
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Absolutely agree. If the recent trend of young guys coming to this board continues, then it will defeat the point of the Mature Man Forum entriely. This situation aside, this forum seems to be evolving nicely.Originally posted by Jay Gatsby
Yes, there do seem to be a few underage posters coming here and asking for advice. Can you blame them? The mature men who could answer their questions are, for the most part, spending more time here than on the main board. Those same men are most certainly not spending time on the high school board. So in the end, you have clueless guys giving advice to other clueless guys. Talk about the blind leading the blind.
At the same time, I completely understand why mature men would want to spend their time here. We have questions that no underage poster could answer, much less understand. Issues like marriage, children, divorce, investments, etc...are all issues that your average 25+ year old person has to deal with. Your average underage person, on the other hand, is still dealing with getting a girl's (and I mean *girl* not woman) phone number, if not ultimately doing the deed with her.
With all that said, underage posters should not post their questions here. If you, as an underage poster, have a question that you think that a mature man is the only one who can answer it (you'd most likely be wrong), then simply post a link here to your message on the main board. Do so only if nobody has responded in 2-3 days. We are a secondary resource, not your primary one.
If you're still in high school, you'll be wasting your time in posting here, since most of us are at least 8-10 years out of high school, and have moved beyond playing the types of games high school girls play.
To the moderators: I would suggest a sticky at the top that tells underage folks some of the foregoing things.