"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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What the hell!?

Jon55

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So this girl I've been hanging out with who's pretty cool. We've been getting kinda close but we're not actually seeing each other (yet, I still haven't decided if I really want to date her or not, but I know she's really into me).

She and a friend of hers (girl) were going to this kick-back/party and I was going to meet them there. I had plans to go out of town for a week (which she already knew about, but I told her I would probably go to the party anyway). Well, I left for my trip early and didn't go.

I told her this on the phone (she called asking where I was...I kind of forgot to let her know) and she said she was really sad, telling me how I blew it, how she was starting to warm up to me but now not anymore (she said it in a kind of playful tone though). I said something like "Aw don't be mad, sorry I didn't let you know but I'll be back after the weekend". She continued acting mad/sad making me feel like I've disappointed her or something.

Anyway, I mean the girls' cool and all, but I just don't know if I really even want to date her yet, so I'm kinda indifferent about it. I mean if she is actually mad, what's she gonna do? Make out with a bunch of guys? Ignore me? Neither of those really bother me.

She's going out of town for the weekend too (driving long distance), and part of me wanted to text her saying something like "text me so I know you got in safely :)" or something, just so she feels special, but is that an afc move? Ugh, I have an afc past (and somewhat present) and it tends to speak up every now and then, and I don't know what to do sometimes.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Silence is golden man. Don't give her any power.

She'll be back, don't stress over it. Take her friend and watch Indiana Jones.
 

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Rhoto said:
Silence is golden man. Don't give her any power.

She'll be back, don't stress over it. Take her friend and watch Indiana Jones.

Good point man.
 

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SilverSonnet said:
Rhoto got it right. Dont let her seethat she has any influence on your emotions or actions. Good luck ;)
Oy, thanks. I haven't spoken/texted a word since I got off the phone with her. I'll keep it that way till I see her next and be like nothings wrong. :up: Thank God for this forum and its' members.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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