"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
What the hell does sorta mean?
- Thread starter rippa32
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
typical
Master Don Juan
Let me break down how uni works in general, its just like high school but with alot more freedom, the jocks still rule and the nerds still get put down, learn to distinguish between what is real and what is fake, girls at uni are there to find out who they are in life, thats why they do weird as degrees and papers.
Now the real reason why you don't ever say its a date its because you already asked her out to the movie she already knows shes going to go with you to a movie she doesn't need to be told that its a date, she knows its a date but would rather play along and get swept off her feet.
They must have a paper that teaches you about how humans socialise and how the human mind works, my advice take it it'll teach you alot.
They aren't easy as in go grab a girl and take her to your place and shag all night long, theres an art to the process which has been programmed into you from birth, you just need to learn a few things about it to get it working for you.
Now my advice this so called girl would be to ditch the movies idea and take her for lunch to a nearby park get in close talk about any crap you want just not boring things about studies ........ actually don't even mentions anything to do with studies isolate her get close and go in for a kiss. Try it if it works good job if not look around plenty more.
typical
Master Don Juan
Nope not American just across the ditch from kiwi land, spent a year in the states so thats where I picked up some of the lingo.rippa32 said:I am assuming you are american judging from your use of the word jock. Nerds are not put down at uni in Australia, High School is pretty much the same however ,it is so much more civilised in that regard. I am not putting your country down, you do raise valid points but one thing I have learnt over the years is try to avoid cultural bias. Also I am looking for a long term relationship not a quick shag. Also if she already assumed a date why would she get so put off by me saying so?
I said that whole jocks and nerds thing as a large exaggeration, your only 18 so saying you want a LTR right now isn't a very good idea, go see the world make something out of yourself then see if some girl is worth your time of settling down. I'm being serious man ask the girl to hang out again and if she Doesn't try to get somewhere with her (at least a kiss, and I mean with some tongue action LOL).
And girls like to be led they really do like not knowing what to expect yea they whine about it and bit(h about some guy jumping her etc etc but in a few months time you normally hear them saying how shes dating the guy that jumped her and kissed her. Girls are just like that, next time a girl says shes willing to hang out with you just assume its a date and go from there. They live in a bubble of candy and flowers and don't like to deal with alot of things ....... don't argue with me they all seriously do even the feminists do too.
And if your looking for a LTR (and really who isn't), then go out and date as many girls as you can and then decide what sort of girl you want to settle down with, what you think you know about a person is just the tip of the iceberg it takes over 6 months to start to even find out who the real person is that your dating. Don't be a fool and rush in.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.