_sideways_
Master Don Juan
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I've been stopping myself lately.. .need help
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
what stops you from approaching and how do you remedy that?
- Thread starter _sideways_
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
TheGambino
Master Don Juan
Just go! don't think, find an excuse to talk to her like hey do you know where the bus station is? and go from there, just try to bring up something that fits the situation or the place where you at and try to make it like your bored and want company. after that build convo and step it up to flirt.
If she gives you signs like eye contact or a smile just ask for her name in stead of an excuse to approach. Be a man, take charge, if she blows you off look her in the eyes SMILE and leave without sayin a word.
all the tricks and tips for the convo are on the forum like you know. but just approach and do it all the time with every girl you like, after a while it'll be normal and most girls love it when a guys has the balls to do it. always +, however it turns out for you, regret is worse then rejection
If she gives you signs like eye contact or a smile just ask for her name in stead of an excuse to approach. Be a man, take charge, if she blows you off look her in the eyes SMILE and leave without sayin a word.
all the tricks and tips for the convo are on the forum like you know. but just approach and do it all the time with every girl you like, after a while it'll be normal and most girls love it when a guys has the balls to do it. always +, however it turns out for you, regret is worse then rejection
Demonicale
Senior Don Juan
Some great advice. After all, we all have to start somewhere.
I don't cold approach any more. Waste of time.
I will only ask a girl out if I know her already. Success rate is much better. Yes, I know that there is "nothing to lose" if you cold approach, but it makes me feel so beta. Alpha guys have women coming to them first.
I will only ask a girl out if I know her already. Success rate is much better. Yes, I know that there is "nothing to lose" if you cold approach, but it makes me feel so beta. Alpha guys have women coming to them first.