"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Just curious what experiences do you guys have regretting rejecting someone? like whats signs and behaviour patterns would see if the person regretted it?

I understand that someone may get caught off guard say no by default but regret it... like right away. She's smiling at me and cant take her eyes off me. I think I jumped the gun to soon or she doesn't know what she wants/ got cold feet etc. I was dead certain she was into me.Every signal in the book was there and obvious.


Shed some light on your experiences and observations, anecdotes stories and such. I am asking this as I think Im experiencing this now from a girl that friendzoned me but its too early to tell for sure. I highly suspect it.

Should I go NC then see what happens? I know she's single, probably doesnt have much experience for being young.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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who cares?

I normally cut all ties so I can't even guess what she feels like, not like I even care, also I did meet a ex once(twice the same girl...) I ignored her presence, the first one I did notice she saw me and didn't stay long, ehr friend did though lol, funny too was I was with the same girl in both times, but again I didn't even remember this thing til now
 
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Alvafe said:
who cares?

I normally cut all ties so I can't even guess what she feels like, not like I even care, also I did meet a ex once(twice the same girl...) I ignored her presence, the first one I did notice she saw me and didn't stay long, ehr friend did though lol, funny too was I was with the same girl in both times, but again I didn't even remember this thing til now
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I care. I think I jumped the gun here . How do I do NC properly and when do I establish contact? She Smiles at me just like before, normally this doesnt happen.
 
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thing is NC is not to win a girl over, is for you take care of yourself and move on, if during it she tries to contact you and you want to give it another go you can see if happens but I would normally remember you for what reason you did NC her in first place, chances are things didn't change.

since she FZ you chances are she notice you sliping then she toss a bait for you circle around her, if you want to really make sure where she stand, ask her out and try to make out with her at least(if you can't pull her to sex already) anything other than that move on and keep nc
 
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If she stalks you, could be a sign. Lol!!!:p
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Alvafe said:
thing is NC is not to win a girl over, is for you take care of yourself and move on, if during it she tries to contact you and you want to give it another go you can see if happens but I would normally remember you for what reason you did NC her in first place, chances are things didn't change.

since she FZ you chances are she notice you sliping then she toss a bait for you circle around her, if you want to really make sure where she stand, ask her out and try to make out with her at least(if you can't pull her to sex already) anything other than that move on and keep nc
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I am doing that, working on other things. I don't think she wants attention. I don't think she know whats she wants, and I caught her off guard. I see her in the gym allot she always smiling at me and always looking over whenever she has a client. Do I want a couple weeks then try to talk to her and see how it goes?
 
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Just chat her up and feel her out again. You'll either get the friendly vibe or she'll shut you down quickly. Then, you'll know what to do next.

No need to burn any bridges with any women.

I'd try again for my own satisfaction. Then, you can focus on other things and other women.
 
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Just chat her up and feel her out again. You'll either get the friendly vibe or she'll shut you down quickly. Then, you'll know what to do next.

No need to burn any bridges with any women.

I'd try again for my own satisfaction. Then, you can focus on other things and other women.
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I hit on her after about 2.5 weeks of knowing her. She keeps smiling and doing all these looks and look back bit right now.She's friendly to me. Even out of the corner of her eye I see her glancing. I swear I saw every sign known to man here initially. So I figured to go in for the kill . I don't give her much attention in the first place so its not like she's doing this for attention. She's likely guarded due to lack of experience. I think your right NC would kill it totally.

If I talk to her more would she still warm up to me again if she was genuine? that is if I act like nothing's wrong? I wouldnt go full NC.

This is just a classic case of coming on too soon, she pulls away and I need to not act like a whiny *****.Play it cool and try to get her back
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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