"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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What signs and behaviour would you see if someone regretted rejecting you?

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Just curious what experiences do you guys have regretting rejecting someone? like whats signs and behaviour patterns would see if the person regretted it?

I understand that someone may get caught off guard say no by default but regret it... like right away. She's smiling at me and cant take her eyes off me. I think I jumped the gun to soon or she doesn't know what she wants/ got cold feet etc. I was dead certain she was into me.Every signal in the book was there and obvious.


Shed some light on your experiences and observations, anecdotes stories and such. I am asking this as I think Im experiencing this now from a girl that friendzoned me but its too early to tell for sure. I highly suspect it.

Should I go NC then see what happens? I know she's single, probably doesnt have much experience for being young.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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who cares?

I normally cut all ties so I can't even guess what she feels like, not like I even care, also I did meet a ex once(twice the same girl...) I ignored her presence, the first one I did notice she saw me and didn't stay long, ehr friend did though lol, funny too was I was with the same girl in both times, but again I didn't even remember this thing til now
 
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Alvafe said:
who cares?

I normally cut all ties so I can't even guess what she feels like, not like I even care, also I did meet a ex once(twice the same girl...) I ignored her presence, the first one I did notice she saw me and didn't stay long, ehr friend did though lol, funny too was I was with the same girl in both times, but again I didn't even remember this thing til now
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I care. I think I jumped the gun here . How do I do NC properly and when do I establish contact? She Smiles at me just like before, normally this doesnt happen.
 
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thing is NC is not to win a girl over, is for you take care of yourself and move on, if during it she tries to contact you and you want to give it another go you can see if happens but I would normally remember you for what reason you did NC her in first place, chances are things didn't change.

since she FZ you chances are she notice you sliping then she toss a bait for you circle around her, if you want to really make sure where she stand, ask her out and try to make out with her at least(if you can't pull her to sex already) anything other than that move on and keep nc
 
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If she stalks you, could be a sign. Lol!!!:p
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Alvafe said:
thing is NC is not to win a girl over, is for you take care of yourself and move on, if during it she tries to contact you and you want to give it another go you can see if happens but I would normally remember you for what reason you did NC her in first place, chances are things didn't change.

since she FZ you chances are she notice you sliping then she toss a bait for you circle around her, if you want to really make sure where she stand, ask her out and try to make out with her at least(if you can't pull her to sex already) anything other than that move on and keep nc
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I am doing that, working on other things. I don't think she wants attention. I don't think she know whats she wants, and I caught her off guard. I see her in the gym allot she always smiling at me and always looking over whenever she has a client. Do I want a couple weeks then try to talk to her and see how it goes?
 
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Just chat her up and feel her out again. You'll either get the friendly vibe or she'll shut you down quickly. Then, you'll know what to do next.

No need to burn any bridges with any women.

I'd try again for my own satisfaction. Then, you can focus on other things and other women.
 
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Just chat her up and feel her out again. You'll either get the friendly vibe or she'll shut you down quickly. Then, you'll know what to do next.

No need to burn any bridges with any women.

I'd try again for my own satisfaction. Then, you can focus on other things and other women.
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I hit on her after about 2.5 weeks of knowing her. She keeps smiling and doing all these looks and look back bit right now.She's friendly to me. Even out of the corner of her eye I see her glancing. I swear I saw every sign known to man here initially. So I figured to go in for the kill . I don't give her much attention in the first place so its not like she's doing this for attention. She's likely guarded due to lack of experience. I think your right NC would kill it totally.

If I talk to her more would she still warm up to me again if she was genuine? that is if I act like nothing's wrong? I wouldnt go full NC.

This is just a classic case of coming on too soon, she pulls away and I need to not act like a whiny *****.Play it cool and try to get her back
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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