"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
What should you do when a woman insults you?
- Thread starter edegoge
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
RIP bad joke telling lady. I tried to save you.
What do you mean? I really don't understand how so many people on here claim they wouldn't be fazed if a woman laughed at them telling them they can't have a child. What was she thinking? Is she too stupid to understand I would be insulted? Is it her type of asshöle humor and she really didn't mean it? I don't know. She also called her friend fat and seemed to find that amusing on the first date when it was me, this woman and her friend sitting together. Seems typical of a whöre to have that kind of humor. I'm confused.
She already has a child. I don't think her remark has anything to do with her not liking the idea of kids. She probably thinks I'm unfit to be a father. I don't want children either, and I think I had told her that before she made that remark. When I questioned her about why she thinks I can't have a child she said "Do you want children?". I replied "I don't know". But that was wrong, I should have said it doesn't matter, because it fücking doesn't matter if I want children or not, saying I can't have a child is very insulting regardless. And I'm pretty sure when she said I'm too young at 33, and 45 is a good age to be a father that was total bullsh1t. And her father was younger than I am now when they had a child. As I said, I really don't understand the people who say it wouldn't faze them, but that's what I'm trying to understand.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
And she is a good mother? Not with the father of her child anymore. Was lying naked in my bed while talking on the phone to her 10-year-old son. Doesn't mind fücking a random guy when she's abroad for a few weeks. I don't think she has any authority in the matter.
And even if it is true that I would make a bad father, how is it any less insulting for her to say I can't have a child? Why does she have to say it? Can't she just keep that opinion to herself?
I don't have any other women right now, except a woman who is 10 years older than me who texts me almost every day begging me to come back but I haven't replied for I think over a month. Only reason I haven't blocked her is so I'll get texts and calls on my phone because no one else texts me or calls me and if you're on a date it might give a bad impression when you don't get any texts or calls in hours.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Ok, but would you fück this woman? Should I fück her? As I said I really don't understand how people can not be fazed by such a remark (that I can't have a child), nor do I understand why she said it and expects me to just shrug it off, it's very frustrating. I'm thinking of calling her, fücking her and then asking her again for further explanation what she meant and if it's anything insulting I'll throw her out. Seems like it might be a good revenge to tell a naked woman to fück off. Only thing that could go wrong is if she decides to leave by her own choice before I tell her to fück off, then it might make me feel even worse. I don't feel I've gotten satisfactory answers on this topic.
Another insulting thing she did is ask if I have any friends. I lied and said yes, none of her fücking business.
Are you being serious or trolling?
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Murk
Master Don Juan
Bro, when she said "you are too young" she meant "you're too immature". She's right. Why on earth do you care anyway, how have you survived this long being upset about every negative comment someone makes? Let me guess, you're only upset when a small women does it? What about confrontation from men you have been involved in and at 33 I know you have been in confrontation. Half man.
As I said in the other thread, doesn't fücking matter whether she's right or not. Did she have to say it? Couldn't she have kept that opinion to herself? Did she really expect me to not be insulted? Why was she surprised when I wasn't as happy as before to be with her? Is it fücking surprising? That's the point, and you're missing the point because you're a moron.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.