"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
What should you do when a woman insults you?
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
devilkingx2
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MoreThanSmooth
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Then....
I casually mentions her physical flaws that makes her a bad mother then give her a smug smile.
And...
When I see that she's affected, I'll smoothly says it's all a joke just like how she joked abt me can't having any children.
Well this was just an example, maybe someone telling you that exact thing wouldn't feel very insulting to you. Replace it with something that would insult you, most people probably have something that is insulting to them.
ImTheDoubleGreatest!
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I get the feeling most of you are just keyboard warriors. It's really easy to appear tough on a forum, quite something else IRL.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
There's a difference between a man and a boy with a man's body.
A man who knows exactly who is he will not be easily insulted.
But a boy has to prove that's he is a man thus easily gets agitated/insulted.
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Does she make you feel happy? Do you make her feel happy?
If the answer is no, break things off.
Again, easy to be "a man" online.
ImTheDoubleGreatest!
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Of course I'm a keyboard warrior. I don't do anything else but puff my chest on the internet, and talk hella crap to stuff that sounds like bull**** even though I shrink away in real life. Totally.
How is saying one damn word making 'acting tough'? Not everyone is like you and afraid to say what's on their mind you know.
MrWood
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you can tell by the reply/like ratio...
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
ImTheDoubleGreatest!
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Only for those who were here after July 2015.
devilkingx2
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You didn't provide anywhere near enough context for us to know if she was sh!t testing, joking/roasting, or outright sh!t talking you
Why would anyone be too scared to act tough in front of a woman? Are you intimidated by her beauty or something?
most of the answers I've seen here either aren't particularly serious ("ryuga waga teki wo kurao!") Or are a pretty logical reaction to being insulted (just telling her to fvck off)
I think she was asking about another woman who was texting me. I said she is 43, ten years older than me, and she wants to have children with me and I don't want that. Then I think this b1tch laughed and said I can't have a child. When I asked her why she said that she started lying about me being too young and then tried acting dumb etc. She also asked if I want children, which I think I had already told her I don't want, not sure. Anyway I made the mistake of replying that I don't know, when I should have said it doesn't matter. I asked her about the age of the father of her son and she was playing dumb and lied more, tried to change the age of her son to 7 when she had already told me he's 10, said that's "almost 10", etc. The father of her son was younger than I am now when they had the child, as I said I'm 33, and this b1tch is 31. And she said 45 is a good age to be a father. Just a lot of bullsh1t to try to cover up after she blurted out an insult because she's so stupid she just says what she feels without thinking.
No, I mean it's easy to say on a forum that any comment from a woman wouldn't faze you and just roll off you like water off a duck's back.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.