"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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What should she give me if I win?

lifeislearning

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I'm planning on taking a girl out for some drinks and then challenging her to a game of foosball to settle and old debate we have about who is a better foosball player when we're drunk. These challenges are always more fun when there is some type of wager involved.

She will probably want ice cream if she wins, but I was thinking of taking my reward to a higher and more risque level. Providing things are going well and we are both having fun, do you think it would be too forward to ask for a kiss or boob flash if I win? I almost prefer the flash option because its more funny and suprising, and if she agrees you know she's awesome.

Any other ideas? I was thinking a shoulder massage for me (booring), a dance (ie: other date, fun but nothing I will enjoy on this date), or a lap dance (very cool, big risk big reward situation).
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I think you should go ahead with the rewards you already wrote down there. A kiss is fine and flashing is great too.
 

lifeislearning

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At the very least those will get a laugh.
 

thedude4242

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WOW you created a count for this problem. this is a no-brainer. man if everyones women problems were only this easy.
 

lifeislearning

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I guess I'm wondering how to escalate without being too sleazy.

I don't want to come off like one of those sleasy douches who hits on a 10 who won't even look at him, strikes out, and spends the rest of the night at the bar repeating, "Where are all the hot chicks at?" as they dance all around him, oblivious to the sad sack he is.

So enlighten me to the no-brainer good sir!
Ok, maybe I'm in no danger of that, but I usually escalate slowly but constantly until she can't stand waiting any longer and attacks me. It doesn't always work, but when it does the girl turns into a hurricane of sex and nothing is off bounds. I would like to start initiating contact myself, and it is new territory for me.

Enlighten me to this no-brainer sir!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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ENIGMA16

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Just go for a kiss, then give her an awesome kiss. That's what I'd do.
 

thedude4242

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keep mentioning what am I going to get if I win. maybe what she wants will be worth losing for. flirt around and talk to her and then see how its goes.
 
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