"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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What should I work on 1st: social proof or girls?

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Like today, all Sophomores had lunch together. I didn't really have anywhere to sit. I realized I really had no true friends. I haven't hung out with people since about Feb. Everyone time I try to hook something up, something goes wrong. What should I do?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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the first thing to do: talk to someone during class. classes are boring and good for slipping in a hi or two. its really easy, ecspecially if youre like me and tend to make comments during class. its not necessary though. see a guy who seems cool? look for something to say. he could be wearing a shirt with new york on it, ask him if he's from there. he mentions to the teacher he didnt have his homework cause its in his car that broke down? ask him about it. or just mention that this class blows or if he needs help on the problems.

body language is a big key. dont be a hunched up, nerdy style. stretch your legs out comfortably, lean back in your chair, keep your chin up, give a smile when people make jokes. you dont have to be joe jockman confidence yet, just dont be closed off and antisocial looking

ask for a name. 'whats your name?' 'jake' (nod) 'im danno'.

now when you see these people at lunch, walk up and say yo man and say what comes to mind from the earlier conversation...man even i'm gonna have to get help for those goddamn pages she gave us for tonight...just light conversation. its not hard, watch seinfeld and you'll eventually be able to get conversation out of anything. literally.

girls is probably more important, but i would work on social proof first just to get a feel for things. you can work on girls anytime, anyways.
 
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Without social proof of some kind, it's damn near impossible to get anywhere in the women department. Social proof first, or you'll find yourself chasing shadows.
 
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Approach girls first, do you realize once your in the lunch room approaching and working the room others are watching what you do so your automatically getting social proofed. Your basically doing boht at the same time so just go and approach stop worrying about social proof.
 
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