What should I think of this?!

[medicinemc2]

Okay, so I have been dating this girl now for 9 months and all till about 2 months ago everything was good. Exactly two months my gf and her roomies went to go get some furniture for their place and met a gay sales assoc that one of the girls knew. Anyway, he came over their place to help them decorate the place and became friends with them. Up until recently when my gf got a new roommate her and this gay guy have become extremely close. They hangout all the time (more than with me) and he even stays at her place. I understand they are good friends, but I am not exactly down with him staying over. What would you guys do in this case? Am I being unreasonable or should I just drop this broad?!

 

[ObieJuan]

If you don't trust her then end the relationship. She could be lying that he's gay just so you don't think she's cheating- there aren't enough details to go on. Is she behaving any differently?

 

[Faded Image]

Find out if he's actually gay before you do anything.

 

[medicinemc2]

Well, I have met him twice and can definetely say that he acts gay. He is pretty flameboyant and even dresses really wierd. I mean, I don't care about them doing girly stuff like shopping, doing their nails, and all that other gay crap. It actually avoids me having to take her and do that stuff. But now it's getting out of hand. She doesn't really behave differently, only difference is that this kid is always in the picture. I mean hanging out is one thing, but spending the night and going out everywhere together, that's just akward. What do you all think?

 

[ObieJuan]

Well, imposing any restrictions on her would definitely be disasterous. Maybe this buddy-buddy thing won't last forever. Is she blowing you off to hang out with him? If you aren't spending enough time together then show her by finding more fun stuff for the two of you to do. If your relationship has lost its's fun-factor then this guy is definitely filling that niche. She should want to spend more time with you if given good reason but if she starts acting flaky then it will probably be down hill from there. Your needs come first (with consideration for hers, of course) and if she isn't fulfilling those needs then you need to find someone else.