"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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What should I say?

WingHead

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Before, I mentioned a girl that came into my class one day. I haven't seen her since, but I know she's a cheerleader, so she's bound to be at the football games.

Anyways, I guess what I'm gonna do is go to a game and try and find her, then just ask her out. I figure since I never see her anyways, getting rejected won't be too big a problem.

I just don't know what I should say. So I came to you guys. Thanks. :)
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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noodle

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Have you even spoken to this girl yet?

if not...you have no chance of getting a date with her.
You have to build up to it man, can't just dive in there. Imagine how akward it would be for her if some random guy shes never met askes her out. Of course shes going to say no!
 

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Chat her up for a bit, and if she's more than good looks and seems like she's someone you want to spend more time with, get her number and ask her out later on.
 

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No, I've never talked to her. (Never had a chance to.)

So, I guess I'll just go to a game and if I see her, should I say something like "great job out there tonight."? Then I can introduce myself and like you said, Vice, chat her up and if I think things went well should I ask for a number? Or just say something like "maybe we can talk again sometime."? Then ask for a number probably the next time [at the next game], and once I have the number, then ask her out?

Does that sound good to you guys? :)
 

intrextrovert

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Well, tbh i'd chat her up a bit next time i see her or after a football game or something, open with a you did pretty good or something. Probably end with a maybe we can talk another time or if it goes particularly well get # and set up something soon.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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It's good that your thinking to ask out instead of trying to become friends first. Still in high school I would at least make sure you know her a bit by talking to her a few times first.
 
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