"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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what should i say to her??

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so, last nite i hung out with this girl from work, we were chilling at my place and it slowly moved on and on, and then this happened
what should i say to this girl when i see her at work again?? this was the first time i ever saw her outside of work
:confused: :confused:
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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check_mate_kid_uk

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jokingly say "next time your gona have to do a better job of turning me on"
 

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Originally posted by check_mate_kid_uk
jokingly say "next time your gona have to do a better job of turning me on"
I like this response!
 

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anything else?? i figure ill probably just act like nothing happened.
 

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you do not need to make a big deal of it like they say "do not make a big dela out of anytinhg untill it is somthing" it was no big deal but if you pretend it never happened then that could be uncomfterble. When you see her you should say the line i told you to say earlyer, more a less straight away with in a minute or so, and then explain the truth, ie what you mentioned in the post.

hope iv been a help
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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why in the world would you act like nothing happened? You ****ed her and your going to just act like nothing happened?
 

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^maybe she was asleep?;)

j/k.
Sucks bro. take their advice.
 

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Originally posted by RaMar
why in the world would you act like nothing happened? You ****ed her and your going to just act like nothing happened?
yah, i hung out wid her once and i ****ed her. shes a slut. why would i want to go out with her?? shes a classic **** and chuck buddy. if you lived closer id hook you up :D
so yeah, i just acted like nothing happened and talked to her just like i did before, and she was like "hey, you get off at the same time as me tommorow, we shud go over to my house after so we can drink and party". then this other girl i work with says "aww____, you're gonna sleep with her??" so i was like "noooo....:rolleyes: "
 
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