"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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What should I make of this?

El Don

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So theres this girl I was into. I had wanted to get with her but she has dealt with alot of drama in the past and everything and she told me that she liked me she doesnt want to get with me and then bring all this drama onto me also.(at this point I thought, great LJBF) I just basically said ok and knew that she prob just wanted to keep us as friends and thats about it. She called me today though and said that she feels lonely and shes at her friends celebrating thanksgiving or whatever and said she would like it if I went over there to hang with her and meet her friends.....ok?

Didnt she just say that she didnt want to get with me and here she is calling me and telling me shes lonely and would like it if I went over there to see her and meet her friends. Im just thinking that because some of her friends are there with boyfriends that she just wants to have me there so she doesnt feel much like shes lonely and is just prob trying to use me or something. I dont know what to really think about this but I am thinking she just needs some company and thats why she wants me to go, but theres going to be other people meeting up there later so she definately will have other people there to chill with but why call me now when there are people showing up later. What you guys think?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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SuperAlbert

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She's just gonna be using you (don't forget she already put you in that LJBF catagory). I'd move on with another chick with a higher IL. If you do go along with it, I suggest that you act like the man that you are and not act like those other AFC's.
 

Mr Spitfire

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OMG a girl is inviting me to a social gathering with other guys and girls, OH NO WHAT DO I DO!?!??!?!
 
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