"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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What should I make of this?

El Don

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So theres this girl I was into. I had wanted to get with her but she has dealt with alot of drama in the past and everything and she told me that she liked me she doesnt want to get with me and then bring all this drama onto me also.(at this point I thought, great LJBF) I just basically said ok and knew that she prob just wanted to keep us as friends and thats about it. She called me today though and said that she feels lonely and shes at her friends celebrating thanksgiving or whatever and said she would like it if I went over there to hang with her and meet her friends.....ok?

Didnt she just say that she didnt want to get with me and here she is calling me and telling me shes lonely and would like it if I went over there to see her and meet her friends. Im just thinking that because some of her friends are there with boyfriends that she just wants to have me there so she doesnt feel much like shes lonely and is just prob trying to use me or something. I dont know what to really think about this but I am thinking she just needs some company and thats why she wants me to go, but theres going to be other people meeting up there later so she definately will have other people there to chill with but why call me now when there are people showing up later. What you guys think?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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She's just gonna be using you (don't forget she already put you in that LJBF catagory). I'd move on with another chick with a higher IL. If you do go along with it, I suggest that you act like the man that you are and not act like those other AFC's.
 

Mr Spitfire

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OMG a girl is inviting me to a social gathering with other guys and girls, OH NO WHAT DO I DO!?!??!?!
 
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