Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
what? I had nuthin else 2 say? :nervous:You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
*clap clap*This is good, but I also think what you said was fine. Could have been like "yeah, I know you wanna be me....but you're not as coolGroovy said:Nothing else, nothing more!
My opinion in this is the same: the more you worrie, the slower you think, and so you take more time to think in a comeback! Think about it. Worring makes you nervous and all of that bad stuff... and we all know it just doesn't work this way!
Which means that if you don't worrie, you have more "brain" to think in what really matters, and you have more wit, and your game will flow a lot more naturally and better.
But! Instead of focusin on the words... Have you heard before that it's not what you say, it's how you say? How many times are we gonna continue typing it? :yawn:
You could have just said "Get out now or you're in trobule!" playfully and tickle her or something and it would be faaaaaaaar faaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaar better...
I guess you at least learned something ... and next time you'll know better. So props to you man. Hehe.
"She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.