Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
what? I had nuthin else 2 say? :nervous:That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
*clap clap*This is good, but I also think what you said was fine. Could have been like "yeah, I know you wanna be me....but you're not as coolGroovy said:Nothing else, nothing more!
My opinion in this is the same: the more you worrie, the slower you think, and so you take more time to think in a comeback! Think about it. Worring makes you nervous and all of that bad stuff... and we all know it just doesn't work this way!
Which means that if you don't worrie, you have more "brain" to think in what really matters, and you have more wit, and your game will flow a lot more naturally and better.
But! Instead of focusin on the words... Have you heard before that it's not what you say, it's how you say? How many times are we gonna continue typing it? :yawn:
You could have just said "Get out now or you're in trobule!" playfully and tickle her or something and it would be faaaaaaaar faaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaar better...
I guess you at least learned something ... and next time you'll know better. So props to you man. Hehe.
"She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.