You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
what? I had nuthin else 2 say? :nervous:You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
*clap clap*This is good, but I also think what you said was fine. Could have been like "yeah, I know you wanna be me....but you're not as coolGroovy said:Nothing else, nothing more!
My opinion in this is the same: the more you worrie, the slower you think, and so you take more time to think in a comeback! Think about it. Worring makes you nervous and all of that bad stuff... and we all know it just doesn't work this way!
Which means that if you don't worrie, you have more "brain" to think in what really matters, and you have more wit, and your game will flow a lot more naturally and better.
But! Instead of focusin on the words... Have you heard before that it's not what you say, it's how you say? How many times are we gonna continue typing it? :yawn:
You could have just said "Get out now or you're in trobule!" playfully and tickle her or something and it would be faaaaaaaar faaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaar better...
I guess you at least learned something ... and next time you'll know better. So props to you man. Hehe.
"That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.