"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Spp27

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im 28 years old not very experienced with woman.
so I met a girl at work she always come to get food when she works same days with me I never start the interaction its her. have been talking to her for 6mth maybe little more she tell me everything about here school work never brings up a boyfriend ever. we have lots of similar interest movies and more. we have a real connection so I have asked here out 2 times one time she said the has school and second same day came in said she has a funeral to got to. found out that it was real. so after a while I tried to add her on facebook she never accepeted. after a while I see that she resently added a pic of here and a guy as her new profile pic. so I blew it somehow. she still talks to me like always and never brings up bf.

my question is what did I do wrong? 2nd what should I do now not continues going to get food with here whats the best thing I should do.
it sucks we had a real connection and can talk about anything don't get out much so I don't meet girls that often. thanks for the advise .
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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blind_one

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You are in friend zone.

Read the DJ Bible, it should solve most of your problems and put in on the right path.

As for that girl, just treat her normally.
 

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Spp27 said:
im 28 years old not very experienced with woman.
so I met a girl at work she always come to get food when she works same days with me I never start the interaction its her. have been talking to her for 6mth maybe little more she tell me everything about here school work never brings up a boyfriend ever. we have lots of similar interest movies and more. we have a real connection so I have asked here out 2 times one time she said the has school and second same day came in said she has a funeral to got to. found out that it was real. so after a while I tried to add her on facebook she never accepeted. after a while I see that she resently added a pic of here and a guy as her new profile pic. so I blew it somehow. she still talks to me like always and never brings up bf.

my question is what did I do wrong? 2nd what should I do now not continues going to get food with here whats the best thing I should do.
it sucks we had a real connection and can talk about anything don't get out much so I don't meet girls that often. thanks for the advise .
She saw you as a quiet, shy, nice guy that she can talk to.
 

GS750

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unfortunately you are very much in the friendzone. You asked her to get together twice, and she politely rejected you twice. And she rejected your FB request. Forget this one and move on.
 

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Thanks I have already asked not to work the night I usually work with here said I have school to go to so I won't see here it will make me feel a bit better so I will rarely see here if any.

I one was taking to here and she pretty much turned around and pointed the ass at me and then brought up later she wasn't doing anything on Saturday was this my last time to ask her out and after that she wrote me off?

Just a quick question if u meet a girl is it better to ask her out right away how soon or try too build a good conversation talk to here for a while before you ask here just wondering if I Dident wait so long would I have had a chance.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Damn. She rejected you to go to a "funeral". File this one under done and dusted.

Red the DJ Bible. Work on your self esteem. Improve yourself.

It is all generic advice but it's the only way forward.
 
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