"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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What should I do?

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I have been dating my fiance for 2 years, engaged for 1, and frankly, I feel suffocated. Long story short, I used to have friends, both guys and girls. She thought I was cheating with one of those girl friends, and so I broke off all contact with them. As time went by, she began saying she doesn't like my guy friends, as they are "bad influences". She gets mad whenever they text or call me, and it erupts into a huge fight almost everytime. This happens even when it's the few friends she says she likes, and on occasion, my own brother!
On top of that, everything I do or don't do is wrong. I give this girl everything, and do everything for her. I'm the only one who cleans the house, pays for the majority of things (even though she makes more), fixes things (auto/house), and manages all the bills. And yet, if I neglect her even once, I'm instantly a bad fiance and a total jerk. I feel like she just takes and takes and hardly contributes to the relationship.
So I guess my question is how can I change this relationship? After reading other posts, I know most will say I don't have cajones and just need to leave her. She is carrying my baby, so that's not really an option at this point in time. I just want to get control back in this relationship for the time being, so how can I do that? Teach me Don Juan!
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Advice Seeker said:
if I neglect her even once, I'm instantly a bad fiance and a total jerk.
good ;) I'll take jerk over good husband any day.


Listen, this ***** doesnt get wet for you anymore and its showing in all this frustration getting thrown at you. Stopping giving in and acting like a chump. Stop acting like a 'good fiance' and act how you were when you first met. Might be hard seeing as you have to put up with her bad behavior all day but dont lose focus, hang out with friends and do what you want.

Your the king of the house not her. Stick to your guns, be unashamed for your 'bad influences' lol and get your house in order. Who knows maybe she has just lost her sparkle if she asks. Best of luck mate!
 

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I kind of figured that I'd have to just step up and start doing things. Let her throw her fits, and walk away from the fights before they happen. I am not in the wrong, and I will not let her make me feel like I am anymore.
 

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Yeah just dont let things go to argument and empty threats like 'I am not in the wrong, and I will not let you make me feel like I am anymore.'

Women dont use logic and are never in the wrong. Just be indifferent and nonreactive like you dont give a **** what her opinion is, good or bad. Just focus on enjoying yourself and rewarding her when she is part of that.
 

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Advice Seeker said:
I have been dating my fiance for 2 years, engaged for 1, and frankly, I feel suffocated. Long story short, I used to have friends, both guys and girls. She thought I was cheating with one of those girl friends, and so I broke off all contact with them. As time went by, she began saying she doesn't like my guy friends, as they are "bad influences". She gets mad whenever they text or call me, and it erupts into a huge fight almost everytime. This happens even when it's the few friends she says she likes, and on occasion, my own brother!
On top of that, everything I do or don't do is wrong. I give this girl everything, and do everything for her. I'm the only one who cleans the house, pays for the majority of things (even though she makes more), fixes things (auto/house), and manages all the bills. And yet, if I neglect her even once, I'm instantly a bad fiance and a total jerk. I feel like she just takes and takes and hardly contributes to the relationship.
So I guess my question is how can I change this relationship? After reading other posts, I know most will say I don't have cajones and just need to leave her. She is carrying my baby, so that's not really an option at this point in time. I just want to get control back in this relationship for the time being, so how can I do that? Teach me Don Juan!

Dude just GTFO. She's bad news.

Fuk just saw she is pregnant.. dude get an abortion?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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How far pregnant is she? She may sort her crap out once her hormone levels have levelled out.

When did all this start?
I'm inclined to ask for more info. I'm not going to tell you to up and leave a pregnant woman without all the details in hand.
 
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