"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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What should i do?

oneboy21

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A question for you guys?
I met girl at the coffee store, i opened her up asking what is she studying, she said she is looking for a job. I talked to her for a while, suggested few places where she can contact for a job. she felt good and happy about my suggestions and thanked me for that. She is a solid 8

We talked about other normal stuff, in the mean while i never hit on her, i did some kino, she mentioned her name and asked for mine. she told me she goes to church and may invite me to church this weekend( she is not that religious).
i told ok and gave my email address, i told her i am hungry and asked her to join for, for which she said she just ate big breakfast and coffee, she didn't come.

She sent me an email thanking for helping her and also told me she will inform if she goes to church.

Should i reply to her email or should i just ignore this chic even if she sends an email asking met o come to church, what you guys think.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Hollow.man

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Why would you ignore it? You went through the effort of talking to her to ignore her? Cancel Sunday, get her number, meet her for a drink in the week. The church isn't the best place for a date...
 

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Are you religious?

I'm kinda a recovering AFC, haha, so take my advice with a grain of salt.

But, if you're religious and looking for a religious girl (I couldn't tell if you meant she isn't or you aren't religious), I'd say go to church with her and then afterwards grab some brunch/Sunday lunch.

Also, why would you give a girl your email address? I would've suggested phone...

Or, what the other poster said - cancel on Sunday, meet up with her during the week.
 

oneboy21

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I am not religious neither does she
we were talking about different things and church topic came up, she mentioned that she would like to email, so i gave my email. In the whole 30 minute conversation i never hit on her. btw she is a christian and i am hindu, different religions.
So what you guys think
 

oneboy21

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I am not religious neither does she
we were talking about different things and church topic came up, she mentioned that she would like to email, so i gave my email. In the whole 30 minute conversation i never hit on her. btw she is a christian and i am hindu, different religions.
So what you guys think
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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