"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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WHAT SHOULD i DO???

Willis

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:confused: alright..this week was my first week back in school since 08...i go to a comunity college (tryna wait out the recession productivly)and there alot of pretty girls:yes:
my question is should i just ignore them completely,
and act like i dont see them??
because i heard it works in pulling them too...Or should i look for IOIs and a try and befriend them and talk to them....im kinda leading toward just tottally ignorng them because its kinda like whats the point..
im thinking to myself: "Alright theres a chick,,,shes hot i know somebody is smashing" so im like why even try?":yawn:
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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katatonia

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LOL no ignoring doesn't work like that. You have to have at least some value to a girl before you pull that tactic. I guess it could work though if you acquire high value amongst the girls in your class and ignore your target most of the time, especially if she is an attention wh0re.
 

I'm in the Mood

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Willis said:
:confused: alright..this week was my first week back in school since 08...i go to a comunity college (tryna wait out the recession productivly)and there alot of pretty girls:yes:
my question is should i just ignore them completely,
and act like i dont see them??
because i heard it works in pulling them too...Or should i look for IOIs and a try and befriend them and talk to them....im kinda leading toward just tottally ignorng them because its kinda like whats the point..
im thinking to myself: "Alright theres a chick,,,shes hot i know somebody is smashing" so im like why even try?":yawn:
You need to establish interest beforehand socially. You'd be better off talking to as many people as you can, making lots of friends and then you'll have instant social status because people will see you as the guy everyone likes.

You first need IL (interest level) then you can push/pull.
What you described is like pushing them away from you without pulling them in, which will cause you to come off as antisocial and insecure.

It's a very delicate art. Techniques will only do so much for you unless you have your innergame down.
 

underoath777

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Willis said:
Why? He answered your question. If you ignore girls before they're interested they are going to think you a socially inept and they won't even waste their time of day thinking about you.

Now if you flirt with them, THEN ignore, that's a different story.


Just meet everyone, spread the love, and become super social.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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"If you ignore girls before they're interested they are going to think you a socially inept"

so im socially inept just because i dont talk to a chick????
 

AtillaTheHun

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Willis said:
so im socially inept just because i dont talk to a chick????
No, but if you ignore ALL the girls ALL the time, then you probably are socially inept.
 

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Willis said:
"If you ignore girls before they're interested they are going to think you a socially inept"

so im socially inept just because i dont talk to a chick????
Your questions are pretty basic, man.

Just read the DJ Bible and relax. No, you should not ignore women you are interested in.
 

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i guess what i was asking was would being indifferent and ignoring them make them start to approach me or wanna talk to me??...cuz i have friends that have chicks approach them and im like WTF
...i know this is passive and i gotta approach but im just a super-laid back guy...and its real exhausting and nerve-racking to approach shortys i dont know....
 

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Most of the community college chicks are looking forward to be carrier mommies anyway... so why waste your time ignoring them when you can go talk to them to pick those that interest you?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Mantis Toboggan

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Willis said:
i guess what i was asking was would being indifferent and ignoring them make them start to approach me or wanna talk to me??...cuz i have friends that have chicks approach them and im like WTF
...i know this is passive and i gotta approach but im just a super-laid back guy...and its real exhausting and nerve-racking to approach shortys i dont know....

We all have friends who occasionally have girls approach them. And a lot of my friends would say that girls approach me. But I probably would have gotten laid 8 times my whole life if all I did was sit around waiting for girls to approach me. Sitting back and waiting for things to fall in your lap is pretty much a passive way to live your life.

Everyone wants to get something for nothing. But no, you cannot get the women you want by sitting back and waiting for them to approach you. Weak way to live...you gotta fix that.
 
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