"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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WHAT SHOULD i DO???

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:confused: alright..this week was my first week back in school since 08...i go to a comunity college (tryna wait out the recession productivly)and there alot of pretty girls:yes:
my question is should i just ignore them completely,
and act like i dont see them??
because i heard it works in pulling them too...Or should i look for IOIs and a try and befriend them and talk to them....im kinda leading toward just tottally ignorng them because its kinda like whats the point..
im thinking to myself: "Alright theres a chick,,,shes hot i know somebody is smashing" so im like why even try?":yawn:
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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LOL no ignoring doesn't work like that. You have to have at least some value to a girl before you pull that tactic. I guess it could work though if you acquire high value amongst the girls in your class and ignore your target most of the time, especially if she is an attention wh0re.
 
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Willis said:
:confused: alright..this week was my first week back in school since 08...i go to a comunity college (tryna wait out the recession productivly)and there alot of pretty girls:yes:
my question is should i just ignore them completely,
and act like i dont see them??
because i heard it works in pulling them too...Or should i look for IOIs and a try and befriend them and talk to them....im kinda leading toward just tottally ignorng them because its kinda like whats the point..
im thinking to myself: "Alright theres a chick,,,shes hot i know somebody is smashing" so im like why even try?":yawn:
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You need to establish interest beforehand socially. You'd be better off talking to as many people as you can, making lots of friends and then you'll have instant social status because people will see you as the guy everyone likes.

You first need IL (interest level) then you can push/pull.
What you described is like pushing them away from you without pulling them in, which will cause you to come off as antisocial and insecure.

It's a very delicate art. Techniques will only do so much for you unless you have your innergame down.
 
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Why? He answered your question. If you ignore girls before they're interested they are going to think you a socially inept and they won't even waste their time of day thinking about you.

Now if you flirt with them, THEN ignore, that's a different story.


Just meet everyone, spread the love, and become super social.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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"If you ignore girls before they're interested they are going to think you a socially inept"

so im socially inept just because i dont talk to a chick????
 
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Willis said:
so im socially inept just because i dont talk to a chick????
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No, but if you ignore ALL the girls ALL the time, then you probably are socially inept.
 
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Willis said:
"If you ignore girls before they're interested they are going to think you a socially inept"

so im socially inept just because i dont talk to a chick????
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Your questions are pretty basic, man.

Just read the DJ Bible and relax. No, you should not ignore women you are interested in.
 
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i guess what i was asking was would being indifferent and ignoring them make them start to approach me or wanna talk to me??...cuz i have friends that have chicks approach them and im like WTF
...i know this is passive and i gotta approach but im just a super-laid back guy...and its real exhausting and nerve-racking to approach shortys i dont know....
 
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Most of the community college chicks are looking forward to be carrier mommies anyway... so why waste your time ignoring them when you can go talk to them to pick those that interest you?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Willis said:
i guess what i was asking was would being indifferent and ignoring them make them start to approach me or wanna talk to me??...cuz i have friends that have chicks approach them and im like WTF
...i know this is passive and i gotta approach but im just a super-laid back guy...and its real exhausting and nerve-racking to approach shortys i dont know....
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We all have friends who occasionally have girls approach them. And a lot of my friends would say that girls approach me. But I probably would have gotten laid 8 times my whole life if all I did was sit around waiting for girls to approach me. Sitting back and waiting for things to fall in your lap is pretty much a passive way to live your life.

Everyone wants to get something for nothing. But no, you cannot get the women you want by sitting back and waiting for them to approach you. Weak way to live...you gotta fix that.
 
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