"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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WHAT SHOULD i DO???

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:confused: alright..this week was my first week back in school since 08...i go to a comunity college (tryna wait out the recession productivly)and there alot of pretty girls:yes:
my question is should i just ignore them completely,
and act like i dont see them??
because i heard it works in pulling them too...Or should i look for IOIs and a try and befriend them and talk to them....im kinda leading toward just tottally ignorng them because its kinda like whats the point..
im thinking to myself: "Alright theres a chick,,,shes hot i know somebody is smashing" so im like why even try?":yawn:
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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LOL no ignoring doesn't work like that. You have to have at least some value to a girl before you pull that tactic. I guess it could work though if you acquire high value amongst the girls in your class and ignore your target most of the time, especially if she is an attention wh0re.
 
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Willis said:
:confused: alright..this week was my first week back in school since 08...i go to a comunity college (tryna wait out the recession productivly)and there alot of pretty girls:yes:
my question is should i just ignore them completely,
and act like i dont see them??
because i heard it works in pulling them too...Or should i look for IOIs and a try and befriend them and talk to them....im kinda leading toward just tottally ignorng them because its kinda like whats the point..
im thinking to myself: "Alright theres a chick,,,shes hot i know somebody is smashing" so im like why even try?":yawn:
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You need to establish interest beforehand socially. You'd be better off talking to as many people as you can, making lots of friends and then you'll have instant social status because people will see you as the guy everyone likes.

You first need IL (interest level) then you can push/pull.
What you described is like pushing them away from you without pulling them in, which will cause you to come off as antisocial and insecure.

It's a very delicate art. Techniques will only do so much for you unless you have your innergame down.
 
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Why? He answered your question. If you ignore girls before they're interested they are going to think you a socially inept and they won't even waste their time of day thinking about you.

Now if you flirt with them, THEN ignore, that's a different story.


Just meet everyone, spread the love, and become super social.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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"If you ignore girls before they're interested they are going to think you a socially inept"

so im socially inept just because i dont talk to a chick????
 
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Willis said:
so im socially inept just because i dont talk to a chick????
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No, but if you ignore ALL the girls ALL the time, then you probably are socially inept.
 
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Willis said:
"If you ignore girls before they're interested they are going to think you a socially inept"

so im socially inept just because i dont talk to a chick????
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Your questions are pretty basic, man.

Just read the DJ Bible and relax. No, you should not ignore women you are interested in.
 
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i guess what i was asking was would being indifferent and ignoring them make them start to approach me or wanna talk to me??...cuz i have friends that have chicks approach them and im like WTF
...i know this is passive and i gotta approach but im just a super-laid back guy...and its real exhausting and nerve-racking to approach shortys i dont know....
 
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Most of the community college chicks are looking forward to be carrier mommies anyway... so why waste your time ignoring them when you can go talk to them to pick those that interest you?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Willis said:
i guess what i was asking was would being indifferent and ignoring them make them start to approach me or wanna talk to me??...cuz i have friends that have chicks approach them and im like WTF
...i know this is passive and i gotta approach but im just a super-laid back guy...and its real exhausting and nerve-racking to approach shortys i dont know....
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We all have friends who occasionally have girls approach them. And a lot of my friends would say that girls approach me. But I probably would have gotten laid 8 times my whole life if all I did was sit around waiting for girls to approach me. Sitting back and waiting for things to fall in your lap is pretty much a passive way to live your life.

Everyone wants to get something for nothing. But no, you cannot get the women you want by sitting back and waiting for them to approach you. Weak way to live...you gotta fix that.
 
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