"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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if a girl who you know is interested in you, stops talking to you for no reason, what should you do?

I'm in this situation. We're in the same math class. She seemed to be attracted to me. I know for a fact that she thinks that I look good (she told my friend that she thinks I'm hot).

We went out for lunch, I made her laugh, she had fun and all that. And then BOOM. all of a sudden she's not talkin to me. She seems to hate me.

She was telling something to her and my friends so I asked "what happened?" and she totally ignored my question. I mean, maybe I said something wrong. Maybe she's not attracted no more, I don't know. What should I do? Should I ask her if I've done something wrong? Or should I just let it go?

My friends say that I don't give her enough attention (and that's true). They think that she has strong feelings for me, but is afraid. Need advice, what should I do? :(
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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vato said:
if a girl who you know is interested in you, stops talking to you for no reason, what should you do?

I'm in this situation. We're in the same math class. She seemed to be attracted to me. I know for a fact that she thinks that I look good (she told my friend that she thinks I'm hot).

We went out for lunch, I made her laugh, she had fun and all that. And then BOOM. all of a sudden she's not talkin to me. She seems to hate me.

She was telling something to her and my friends so I asked "what happened?" and she totally ignored my question. I mean, maybe I said something wrong. Maybe she's not attracted no more, I don't know. What should I do? Should I ask her if I've done something wrong? Or should I just let it go?

My friends say that I don't give her enough attention (and that's true). They think that she has strong feelings for me, but is afraid. Need advice, what should I do? :(
Heres what you should do, you should ignore the sh1t out of her right back unless and until she tries talking to you and you have to really mean it when you are ignoring her so that she realises that you value yourself as a human being and will not let the opinion or behaviours of other people affect you in any major way.

You will get on with your life and she will come grovelling back.......or not but either way who cares there are plenty of fish in the sea.

Oh yeah and when i say you should ignore her i mean you should get on with your life and hold no grudges against her for acting weird. Just enjoy life for what it is and make an effort to achieve big things in your academics and she will see that you are not outcome dependent or needy .Of course there is always the chance that she may have never really liked you to begin with and was just toying with you but who wants a girl like that anyway?
 
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vato said:
She was telling something to her and my friends so I asked "what happened?" and she totally ignored my question. I mean, maybe I said something wrong. Maybe she's not attracted no more, I don't know. What should I do? Should I ask her if I've done something wrong? Or should I just let it go?
In this case you should have been assertive (i.e stood up for yourself) and told her '' wow you just totally ignored me when i was asking you a question that is quite rude''.

check this thread out for the sections where i posted it will teach you the basics of assertiveness.
 
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