"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
What should i do with this flaky girl?
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Monster DJ
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lol no.. she has tons of orbiters feeding her ego.. like on her fb and irl.. the orbiters are too much so she's probably feeling like a queen smh
So she's not one, but she's like one. The internet influence is big.
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She just called again.. ranged for long.. of course i didn't pick up.. I'll never pick up! can't she get the message already? what does she want again?
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Just block her number and be done with her. End of Thread!
Who knows. But chasing is her job. And that is what she is doing now. Can she get the message? Yes. But like i said earlier, she will want what she can't have. The guy who nexts her and moves his attention elsewhere.
A GIRL NEVER MORNS THE AVAILABLE GUY.
You have just done to her what no other thirsty orbiter in her system has ever done before. You looked at your phone and went "nope." Then put the phone back down.
She isn't used to being nexted. Now go.date other women.
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Damn.. your posts are so sweet man.. always the truth and high quality.. She called again today, this time 3x in a row without taking a break, she even called my other number.. of course I'll never pick up, she's pure narcissist.. i hope she doesn't start looking for me.. I'm supposed to bkock her number but i just want to track how long she reaches out.. I was thinking she'll get the picture but now that she keeps calling i feel she's a devil.. i won't give in, i already have 2 girls I'm seeing
TheGambino
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I like this a lot.
mrgoodstuff
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Why you think she's a "devil"? Cause she just want validation knowing your still on the line?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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lol cos she feeds off from your attention without adding any value to you, keeps you as her option or ego booster then you become glued with her and waste high quality time you should have used for Something more productive or with other girls who value and respect your time. And as dude99 pointed out, she isn't used to being NEXTED she feels very insecure now and wants to contact me.. not because she loves me or anything but to boost her ego: I can't be NEXTED etc
Just block her. The drama it will bring and escalate won't be worth the headaches.
Focus on the new ones and not so much on how much 'narcissist' is now pursuing you. Focus on the positive. If she is a waste of time, don't waste previous time and energy on her. You have two new options. Id put my energy into them.
mrgoodstuff
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You nailed this point