"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
What should i do with this flaky girl?
- Thread starter Monster DJ
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Monster DJ
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lol no.. she has tons of orbiters feeding her ego.. like on her fb and irl.. the orbiters are too much so she's probably feeling like a queen smh
So she's not one, but she's like one. The internet influence is big.
Monster DJ
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She just called again.. ranged for long.. of course i didn't pick up.. I'll never pick up! can't she get the message already? what does she want again?
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Just block her number and be done with her. End of Thread!
Who knows. But chasing is her job. And that is what she is doing now. Can she get the message? Yes. But like i said earlier, she will want what she can't have. The guy who nexts her and moves his attention elsewhere.
A GIRL NEVER MORNS THE AVAILABLE GUY.
You have just done to her what no other thirsty orbiter in her system has ever done before. You looked at your phone and went "nope." Then put the phone back down.
She isn't used to being nexted. Now go.date other women.
Monster DJ
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Damn.. your posts are so sweet man.. always the truth and high quality.. She called again today, this time 3x in a row without taking a break, she even called my other number.. of course I'll never pick up, she's pure narcissist.. i hope she doesn't start looking for me.. I'm supposed to bkock her number but i just want to track how long she reaches out.. I was thinking she'll get the picture but now that she keeps calling i feel she's a devil.. i won't give in, i already have 2 girls I'm seeing
TheGambino
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I like this a lot.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
Why you think she's a "devil"? Cause she just want validation knowing your still on the line?
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Monster DJ
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lol cos she feeds off from your attention without adding any value to you, keeps you as her option or ego booster then you become glued with her and waste high quality time you should have used for Something more productive or with other girls who value and respect your time. And as dude99 pointed out, she isn't used to being NEXTED she feels very insecure now and wants to contact me.. not because she loves me or anything but to boost her ego: I can't be NEXTED etc
Just block her. The drama it will bring and escalate won't be worth the headaches.
Focus on the new ones and not so much on how much 'narcissist' is now pursuing you. Focus on the positive. If she is a waste of time, don't waste previous time and energy on her. You have two new options. Id put my energy into them.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
You nailed this point