Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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SupaPowa

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Ok, so I got together with this women that I've met online a second time mmk. She invited me to her place right. She says she likes horror movies so on the way I rented one. Everything went so well. But here's the bit that's been bothering me.

Either I'm not reading the signs or I'm just to chicken sh!t to try but ummm...
There's been NO kino whatsoever. I'm wondering. Is it OK to move this slow? An also...What should I try next? I just wanna make sure that if I DO move in for the more "intimate" stuff that I don't get rejected.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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gaspipe

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Dude when a chick invites you to her place for a night of movies 99.9% it can only mean one thing. SEX. If your not escalating shes going to think something is wrong with you. Your the man. She expects you to lead.
 

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"I just wanna make sure that if I DO move in for the more "intimate" stuff that I don't get rejected."

that's your problem. be outcome independent.
 

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gaspipe said:
Dude when a chick invites you to her place for a night of movies 99.9% it can only mean one thing. SEX. If your not escalating shes going to think something is wrong with you. Your the man. She expects you to lead.
+1
u are a lucky a##.. Dont ruin it DUDE !! Start by holiding her hands,and kinda feeling em nice and soft, and whispering in her ears, how soft and nice her hands are with "the" tone . If she resists (i dont think she might), u wil get the message eh ?
 

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Hmm...Your right.
She invited me again to have thanks giving dinner at her place tommorow. I'll try a couple things like hand holding or the hair feeling thing....etc. The fact that she invited me to celibrate a holiday with her makes it obvious that "the door is open". All I gotta do now is find it and walk right in. Lolz.

I'll let you guys know how it went. What worked...What didn't...All that good stuff.

Thanks
- SupaPowa
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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SupaPowa

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Ugh!!!
Apperantly "I Rock" and "I'm Awesome" because of my odd sense of humor. And her daughter got along with me like gold. But still no kino. I was just to afraid to try anything and yet. Everything seemed to have went so well. I dunno anymore. I need to find a way to like, reed her mind!
Point being is that the date didn't really go as planned but it didn't fail either.
 

SamTheHobit

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SupaPowa said:
Ugh!!!
Apperantly "I Rock" and "I'm Awesome" because of my odd sense of humor. And her daughter got along with me like gold. But still no kino. I was just to afraid to try anything and yet. Everything seemed to have went so well. I dunno anymore. I need to find a way to like, reed her mind!
Point being is that the date didn't really go as planned but it didn't fail either.
Sometimes I think people will do nothing with the girl, and come to the forum afterwards for advice instead of making a move. Take a chance.

-Samthehobit
 

Aaron B

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why are you concerned about being rejected?

if I get alone with a woman I want to bang it won't be long before I'm grabbing dat azz and pulling her to me

if she resists I'll laugh in her face
 

Iceberg

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SupaPowa said:
Ugh!!!
Apperantly "I Rock" and "I'm Awesome" because of my odd sense of humor. And her daughter got along with me like gold. But still no kino. I was just to afraid to try anything and yet. Everything seemed to have went so well. I dunno anymore. I need to find a way to like, reed her mind!
Point being is that the date didn't really go as planned but it didn't fail either.

What the hell do you mean, "you need a way to read her mind"??

She has invited you over to her house....TWICE. As a woman, she is doing her part. It's your job...AS A MAN...to escalate with kino.

It sounds like you're waiting for the woman to make the move. That's not her role. That's YOUR role.

The longer you wait, the more bored she's going to get with you.
 
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It's ok to be nervous SupaPowa, as an inexperienced man myself I get nervous, but it shouldn't stop your from proceeding, if of course you like this girl? Nervous aren't a bad thing, but ultimately you have to bite the bullet.

You need to stop overanalysing the situation and stop being overly cautious. The British Special Air Service has a motto of "Who Dares Wins". Carry this motto with you through life. I usually act playful with a girl, tease her a bit, grab her hips, pull her into me, grab her butt and go from there and I'm very inexperienced with women. You just have to go with your gut instinct, that's the best indicator.

My post probably hasn't helped, but the next time she invites you around just escalate, if she isn't in the mood she'll let you know.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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