"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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What should I do next?

SupaPowa

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Ok, so I got together with this women that I've met online a second time mmk. She invited me to her place right. She says she likes horror movies so on the way I rented one. Everything went so well. But here's the bit that's been bothering me.

Either I'm not reading the signs or I'm just to chicken sh!t to try but ummm...
There's been NO kino whatsoever. I'm wondering. Is it OK to move this slow? An also...What should I try next? I just wanna make sure that if I DO move in for the more "intimate" stuff that I don't get rejected.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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gaspipe

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Dude when a chick invites you to her place for a night of movies 99.9% it can only mean one thing. SEX. If your not escalating shes going to think something is wrong with you. Your the man. She expects you to lead.
 

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"I just wanna make sure that if I DO move in for the more "intimate" stuff that I don't get rejected."

that's your problem. be outcome independent.
 

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gaspipe said:
Dude when a chick invites you to her place for a night of movies 99.9% it can only mean one thing. SEX. If your not escalating shes going to think something is wrong with you. Your the man. She expects you to lead.
+1
u are a lucky a##.. Dont ruin it DUDE !! Start by holiding her hands,and kinda feeling em nice and soft, and whispering in her ears, how soft and nice her hands are with "the" tone . If she resists (i dont think she might), u wil get the message eh ?
 

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Hmm...Your right.
She invited me again to have thanks giving dinner at her place tommorow. I'll try a couple things like hand holding or the hair feeling thing....etc. The fact that she invited me to celibrate a holiday with her makes it obvious that "the door is open". All I gotta do now is find it and walk right in. Lolz.

I'll let you guys know how it went. What worked...What didn't...All that good stuff.

Thanks
- SupaPowa
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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SupaPowa

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Ugh!!!
Apperantly "I Rock" and "I'm Awesome" because of my odd sense of humor. And her daughter got along with me like gold. But still no kino. I was just to afraid to try anything and yet. Everything seemed to have went so well. I dunno anymore. I need to find a way to like, reed her mind!
Point being is that the date didn't really go as planned but it didn't fail either.
 

SamTheHobit

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SupaPowa said:
Ugh!!!
Apperantly "I Rock" and "I'm Awesome" because of my odd sense of humor. And her daughter got along with me like gold. But still no kino. I was just to afraid to try anything and yet. Everything seemed to have went so well. I dunno anymore. I need to find a way to like, reed her mind!
Point being is that the date didn't really go as planned but it didn't fail either.
Sometimes I think people will do nothing with the girl, and come to the forum afterwards for advice instead of making a move. Take a chance.

-Samthehobit
 

Aaron B

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why are you concerned about being rejected?

if I get alone with a woman I want to bang it won't be long before I'm grabbing dat azz and pulling her to me

if she resists I'll laugh in her face
 

Iceberg

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SupaPowa said:
Ugh!!!
Apperantly "I Rock" and "I'm Awesome" because of my odd sense of humor. And her daughter got along with me like gold. But still no kino. I was just to afraid to try anything and yet. Everything seemed to have went so well. I dunno anymore. I need to find a way to like, reed her mind!
Point being is that the date didn't really go as planned but it didn't fail either.

What the hell do you mean, "you need a way to read her mind"??

She has invited you over to her house....TWICE. As a woman, she is doing her part. It's your job...AS A MAN...to escalate with kino.

It sounds like you're waiting for the woman to make the move. That's not her role. That's YOUR role.

The longer you wait, the more bored she's going to get with you.
 
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It's ok to be nervous SupaPowa, as an inexperienced man myself I get nervous, but it shouldn't stop your from proceeding, if of course you like this girl? Nervous aren't a bad thing, but ultimately you have to bite the bullet.

You need to stop overanalysing the situation and stop being overly cautious. The British Special Air Service has a motto of "Who Dares Wins". Carry this motto with you through life. I usually act playful with a girl, tease her a bit, grab her hips, pull her into me, grab her butt and go from there and I'm very inexperienced with women. You just have to go with your gut instinct, that's the best indicator.

My post probably hasn't helped, but the next time she invites you around just escalate, if she isn't in the mood she'll let you know.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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