Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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what should i do in this situation?

UnsworthK

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Ok so I've been no contact with this lass since Sunday. Its not really bothering me as such, but here's the thing.

She lives right next to my friends house. This morning she was having a cigarette, and as was my friend and she said she had nothing to do tonight so he invited her round. I've already made plans to chill at his house tonight so its going to be rather awkward.

What the hell should i do? Just ignore her? Talk to her like nothing has happened? Or just go home now to save myself the bother?

Please help here i don't really know how to react to this.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Show up with a hot chick.

Or treat her like an old workmate.

Or don't show up but go out with a hot chick and text photos to your friend when she is there.
 

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Hey Neil. Thanks for the reply but i don't really have a hot chick at my dispense to invite round also. So far treating her like an old workmate is my only option, so that's the current plan i guess. I might just go home for the reason that she is there, and my friend will tell her that i left because of her presence.
 

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If you leave because of her presence that would only make it seem like she got to you. If an old workmate was there, you wouldn't leave. You wouldn't exactly want to talk to them, but would be polite. You must appear to have a good time and not to harbor any baggage. Remember: guilt does not increase her attraction. Maybe you could be there when she shows up but just have other plans. Don't tell her what those plans are. But be all dressed up. Don't tell your friend what those plans are either - tell him you can't tell him because you don't want her to know. That way he won't have to lie (and won't be able to spill the beans on your plan).
 

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Thanks again for the advice. I think ive come to a decision though. I will treat her like an old workmate. Im not going o let her presence interrupt my plans - why should i? If i act distant - which is quite honestly how i feel anyway then it affects nothing. Its not like she will see me again anyway (got my driving test next Saturday, and when i get my license Im off to London anyway for good because i have a job waiting).

Im just going to be me.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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