"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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what should i do in this situation?

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Ok so I've been no contact with this lass since Sunday. Its not really bothering me as such, but here's the thing.

She lives right next to my friends house. This morning she was having a cigarette, and as was my friend and she said she had nothing to do tonight so he invited her round. I've already made plans to chill at his house tonight so its going to be rather awkward.

What the hell should i do? Just ignore her? Talk to her like nothing has happened? Or just go home now to save myself the bother?

Please help here i don't really know how to react to this.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Show up with a hot chick.

Or treat her like an old workmate.

Or don't show up but go out with a hot chick and text photos to your friend when she is there.
 
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Hey Neil. Thanks for the reply but i don't really have a hot chick at my dispense to invite round also. So far treating her like an old workmate is my only option, so that's the current plan i guess. I might just go home for the reason that she is there, and my friend will tell her that i left because of her presence.
 
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If you leave because of her presence that would only make it seem like she got to you. If an old workmate was there, you wouldn't leave. You wouldn't exactly want to talk to them, but would be polite. You must appear to have a good time and not to harbor any baggage. Remember: guilt does not increase her attraction. Maybe you could be there when she shows up but just have other plans. Don't tell her what those plans are. But be all dressed up. Don't tell your friend what those plans are either - tell him you can't tell him because you don't want her to know. That way he won't have to lie (and won't be able to spill the beans on your plan).
 
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Thanks again for the advice. I think ive come to a decision though. I will treat her like an old workmate. Im not going o let her presence interrupt my plans - why should i? If i act distant - which is quite honestly how i feel anyway then it affects nothing. Its not like she will see me again anyway (got my driving test next Saturday, and when i get my license Im off to London anyway for good because i have a job waiting).

Im just going to be me.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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