"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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what should i do in this situation?

UnsworthK

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Ok so I've been no contact with this lass since Sunday. Its not really bothering me as such, but here's the thing.

She lives right next to my friends house. This morning she was having a cigarette, and as was my friend and she said she had nothing to do tonight so he invited her round. I've already made plans to chill at his house tonight so its going to be rather awkward.

What the hell should i do? Just ignore her? Talk to her like nothing has happened? Or just go home now to save myself the bother?

Please help here i don't really know how to react to this.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Show up with a hot chick.

Or treat her like an old workmate.

Or don't show up but go out with a hot chick and text photos to your friend when she is there.
 

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Hey Neil. Thanks for the reply but i don't really have a hot chick at my dispense to invite round also. So far treating her like an old workmate is my only option, so that's the current plan i guess. I might just go home for the reason that she is there, and my friend will tell her that i left because of her presence.
 

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If you leave because of her presence that would only make it seem like she got to you. If an old workmate was there, you wouldn't leave. You wouldn't exactly want to talk to them, but would be polite. You must appear to have a good time and not to harbor any baggage. Remember: guilt does not increase her attraction. Maybe you could be there when she shows up but just have other plans. Don't tell her what those plans are. But be all dressed up. Don't tell your friend what those plans are either - tell him you can't tell him because you don't want her to know. That way he won't have to lie (and won't be able to spill the beans on your plan).
 

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Thanks again for the advice. I think ive come to a decision though. I will treat her like an old workmate. Im not going o let her presence interrupt my plans - why should i? If i act distant - which is quite honestly how i feel anyway then it affects nothing. Its not like she will see me again anyway (got my driving test next Saturday, and when i get my license Im off to London anyway for good because i have a job waiting).

Im just going to be me.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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